THINGS YOU MISSED: May 2014

PLEASE ONLY ADVICE=Please Help Before I Kill My Husband!

Please help me before I commit murder. My husband is driving me insane and our marriage is less than a year old. It's come to a point I secretly wish something bad happens to him so I can have peace in my life.
He has so many female friends and claims there is nothing between them yet they keep calling him at odd hours. He comes to the house very late and on Fridays at times till daybreak.

Before marriage he takes me along but now I live like a woman with no husband. The painful part is he was nobody when I met him. I stood by him when things were tough while we were courting, now that he has a good job, he is wasting money going to bars, making long calls to women and deleting his messages.
Recently, I saw a message he sent to a girl that he forgot to delete. He told her he misses her and still loves her. When I confronted him, he didn't say anything and has been keeping malice with me for days.
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What I don't understand is he makes it seem I'm the bad person, that did I marry him or his phone, that didn't he see other girls before he married me? If a man has nothing to hide he shouldn't be angry when his wife touches his phone.
I'm so unhappy and I'm scared of walking out because his people have this bad notion about yoruba women that they don't stay in their husband's house and this marriage is just 10 months. I'm fed up and tempted to poison him.

THINGS THAT MEN DON’T WANT IN WOMEN

1. Men do not want women with bad attitude
2. They do not want women who nag all the time over small things
3. Men hate women who compare them with their ex-boyfriends
4. They also don’t want women who never appreciate their effort
5. Men don’t like women who are disrespectful
6. Men hate women who gossip a lot
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7. Men don’t like women who are not hygienic
8. Men do not women who are lazy
9. Men don’t like women who act like dolls or teddy bears in the bedroom
10. Men don’t like women who are not motivate
11. Men do not want women who check in their phones
12. Men do not want women who are not hard-working and supportive
13. Men do not like women who are not Godly
14. Men hate women who do not respect them selves
15. Men do not want women who hate their family members/relatives.

Men you can add more if not listed but remember their vice versa also applies to women

"15 REASONS WHY MANY GUYS DON’T LIKE YOU"

This goes to all the ladies out there. Have you ever taken time to think of the reasons why that guy dumped you? Why he doesn't like you? Why that guy dimmed his love for you? Why your guy changed all over a sudden? Why guys don’t fall for you? Why you are remaining single year to year?

Today I am gonna be posting for you “15 REASONS WHY MANY GUYS DON’T LIKE YOU”. I am going to be posting 3 at a time accompanied with a picture

1. YOU LIE TOO MUCH;
Guys aren't stupid. They can tell when they're being lied too. Don't try to hide who you are because you think a guy won't like the real you. You can't fool somebody forever and once the truth comes out he'll never trust you again. So be yourself to some guys who date you.

2. YOU DON’T APPRECIATE THE LITTLE THINGS HE DOES FOR YOU;
Some guys are horrible with expressing their feelings, but they try to in their own little ways. Sometimes it's something small like picking up a cupcake because they know you'll like it. Lots of times an act like this goes unnoticed, If a guy is trying to show you he cares and you don't see it he'll think you don't care or you don’t love him. Appreciate his efforts please.

3. YOU TEXT & MAKE CALLS TOO MUCH
Guys like to feel important. If you're on your phone the whole time during dinner they'll feel like you don't care about them. The solution is to turn your phone off so you can give all your attention to him. Seriously, nothing is so important to having to always be texting. Think about it and stop it.

PLEASE NOTE: Some of these reasons are vice-versa.
Some of the guys out there also do this. They should also borrow a leaf from these tips.

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10 COMMANDMENTS FOR ALL THE SINGLE LADIES OUT THERE:

1. Don't be in a hurry to move out of your parent’s house.
2. Don't wait for a man before you start living. You can live a fulfilled life as a single woman.
3. Stay away from alcohol. It has killed others and you are not special.
4. Don't entertain wrong numbers calling you, especially late in the night. It's not the right way to find a
lover.
5. Develop a healthy eating habit. Always take breakfast and avoid sweets.

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6. Dress well: impression counts. People will judge you by the way you dress even before they talk to you.
7. Don't use se x as proof of love. Se x is not a proof for love; he'll still leave you after all that sweet sex.
8. Don't marry someone because of money; else you'll become one of his possessions.
9. Add value to yourself, get a career. Don't be fooled that a man will solve all your problems.
10. Respect yourself depending on your dressing code. This will also show what you, where you come from and many people out there will respect you because of your being

10 WAYS MEN SCREW UP ON FIRST DATE!!

Equality or not, dating is where men should be stepping up—with sincerity—and show their interest in someone. But some men either don’t know or don’t show that they understand or accept a simple concept: Courtship is primal. After interviewing and surveying 1,000 women about their first date experiences, here are the most common screw ups men make.

Maybe he looked great back in college, but that was 20 years ago. It's not that looks are everything, but they are a part of the courtship/evaluation process; there needs to be a mental and physical connection that will help lead to an emotional connection as you get to know each other.

What she wants: Honesty and sincerity. He might need to lose a few pounds or have imperfections here and there... but so do we all. No one is perfect. She might not want to see all of him on Date #1, but she will eventually want to see it, so keeping things honest is of paramount importance.

Many men struggle with thoughts like: "Where should I take her?" or "What should we do?" Some men try to shock-and-awe with an over-the-top plan (which can come across as overwhelming, or even weird), while others come with no plan at all (which clearly communicates a lack of planning and/or caring about the date).

What she wants: Something casual, fun, and interesting, with no pressure from him or for her. It should spark conversation (so going to the movies should be out) and reflect some thought into the man he is.

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Sometimes things happen—work, schedules, life—but getting in-touch to reschedule or cancel shows that you value someone else's time. Too often, however, first dates are a no-call/no-show... and unless there in an emergency there's really no reason for it. It's just common courtesy.

What she wants: A simple phone call. Not a last-minute text message canceling the date... a phone call. It shows integrity and that she is worth more than a technology-based blow-off.

Let's face it: First impressions count. Showing up wrinkled, crinkled, and smelling like gym funk isn’t impressive nor endearing. Whether he loves his jeans and t-shirts, or lives in two-piece suits, he needs to come ironed, pressed, and bringing his A-game.

What she wants: To see that he values himself enough to take pride in his appearance.

She wants to get to know him, and she also wants to share what makes her tick... but too often men (and women) get caught up in talking about their resumes, jobs, incomes, and possessions. Not only is that not what makes up the person, it ends up a creating a one-way conversation—where you are talking about you instead of sharing and imparting information.

What she wants: Discussion about ideas, events, news, things he's done, things he wants to do, and things he is interested in. Part of that will break the ice, and it will also show what he values, what he thinks, and how he spends his time.

If someone talks about their ex with a new dating prospect, chances are good that they aren’t completely over the past relationship. Unless you plan on bringing your ex with you into your new relationships, there ’s no reason to discuss them. If a relationship is committed and kids are involved, a discussion some of the past will prepare a new partner for what’s what when dealing with past love interests.

What she wants: For him to be interested in finding out more about her, without him needing to compare everything happening to his past.

Phone calls and text messages in the presence of others is a kind of forced prioritization. If someone accepts call or responds to messages, they are silently saying that those they are with are not as important as the messages they are receiving. the reality: Technology exists for our convenience, not our forced usage. And there’s nothing ruder than being in the company of others, but concentrating on other things—claiming it’s possible to ”multitask”.

What she wants: If something is urgent/important enough to pull him away, he should excuse himself and take the call or deal with the situation. Otherwise, he should be in the moment.

Treating waitstaff rudely is a major red flag. If he sees those in-service as beneath him, he is likely measuring peoples’ worth on the wrong things. And with that elitist attitude comes a constant-but-silent accusation of, “Try as you might, you will never please me or make me happy… but keep trying.”

What she wants: She wants a man who will treat others—regardless of their job, income, mode of dress, possessions, or station in life—with mutual respect and kindness.

Dates are just that: singular events. If he doesn’t want to see her again, he should call and tell her so—that he had a good time, but that he wants to leave it at that. It provides closure with respect, instead of a blow-off of silence.

What she wants: To know that she isn’t crazy in thinking that it was mutual, but then he just went dark.

Dating is rooted in primal courtship rituals. To those men who don’t act, your actions are being interpreted as you not being interested. If you really wanted her, you'd go after her—pure and simple. To be clear, this isn’t the case of "making a man chase a woman". It's about the primal driver of a man leading a woman through the courtship process—interest, date, bedroom, etc. A man who leads, plans, and takes some measure of action is going to be desirable... and she will respond if his actions are sincere. (And to those men who are shy and unsure: I get it. But just be you and put yourself out there. You'll find out right away if she's interested.)

What she wants: For him to do his part in dating, make the plans, and court her. She will do her part and make plans, also… but there’s nothing wrong with him making the moves and showing his interest. She wants him to pursue, and he needs something to chase. Perhaps Mark Twain said it best: “In order to make a man or a boy covet a thing, it is only necessary to make the thing difficult to obtain.”

Woman cuts off ex-boyfriend's pe nis, kills him after rape

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A Chinese woman chopped off her former boyfriend's pe-nis with scissors and then killed him with a hammer after he raped her, a Hong Kong court heard, according to a report Tuesday.

Yeung Ki, 41, on trial in the city, has admitted killing 32-year-old piano teacher Zhou Hui on Boxing Day 2012 but denies murder, the South China Morning Post reported.

Yeung, a Chinese mainlander and Hong Kong resident, killed Zhou after an affair with the married man lasting years, during which he had deserted her while pregnant and borrowed money without paying it back on numerous occasions, it said.

On the night of the killing, Zhou "beat her, pushed her to the floor, and slapped their daughter", then "forcibly had se-x with her", the High Court heard, according to the newspaper.
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Afterwards, she drugged him with soup laced with sleeping pills, cut off his pen-is and flushed it down the toilet, then when he was awakened by the pain, beat him to death with "almost uncountable" blows from a hammer, the paper reported the prosecution as saying.

"Yeung Ki has been charged with murder. The trial will last 11 days," a spokeswoman for the Hong Kong judiciary told AFP.

Zhou had also told Yeung he had nu-de pictures of her which he would post on the internet unless she gave him HK$200,000 ($25,800) to buy a car, the South China Morning Post reported, citing prosecutors who appeared in court Monday.

South Africa’s top 11 se-x scandals: From Jacob Zuma to the 'free love club'

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Here is a look at South Africa's top 11 se-x scandals from small towns in the Free State all the way to the political scandals that gripped the country.

12 Girl students vie for men (1965)
A se-x club at Stellenbosch University got even Hendrik Verwoerd’s wife Betsie Schoombie hot under the collar when it was revealed that 12 female students formed a ‘free love club’ called the 12 Apostles.

The objective of their club was to have as many love affairs with male students as possible.

The girls had a log book each, in which they would keep a record of their se-xual exploits. According to the Sunday Times, the male students were divided into categories and each given a certain number of points.

Doing the deed with a Theology student would get you five points, while an affair with a medical student would get you four points. An engineering student would get two points, while an arts student earned only one point, and the rest were shunned.

The girls were eventually asked to leave the university after the club came to the attention of the school's authorities.

Jacob Zuma rape allegations (2005)
President Jacob Zuma was in the hot seat and the dock in 2005 when an allegation of rape was laid against him.

Zuma – who was then South Africa’s deputy president – was accused of raping a woman who was a guest at his house. The scandal went from bad to worse when it emerged that Zuma was aware that his accuser was HIV-positive.

During the trial, Zuma admitted to having unprotected se-x with the accuser, but claimed he took a shower afterwards to cut the risk of contracting HIV.

The comments sent the media into a frenzy, inspiring cartoonist Zapiro’s iconic yet infamous shower head depiction, that has accompanied the president in the social commentator’s cartoons ever since.

Zuma was found not guilty of rape by the court in May 2006. A year later his accuser was granted asylum in the Netherlands.

Se-x test threatened for the Lolitas of the Vaal (1981)
The small town of Parys in the then Orange Free State was rocked by its own se-x scandal when eight men were convicted under the Immorality Act for having se-x with minors.

Parents in the town feared their daughters would have to undergo vir-ginity tests.

The scandal was uncovered when a 14-year-old decided to type her 21-year-old boyfriend a letter during her typing class. In it she confronted him on his infidelity while she was away on a trip to Bloemfontein.

When the teacher asked to see what she was writing, the scandal was blown wide open.

One of the schoolgirls compiled a list of all the se-xually active girls at the school, and the principal started to “get rid of all the rotten apples in the school”.

One of the girls told the Sunday Times that things like this happened because there was nothing better to do in the town.

Free State Lolitas (1983)
Small-town Lolitas were at it again, this time in Odendaalsrus in the Free State.

A ‘Lolita’ is a young girl engaging in se-xual activities with an older man, made famous by the 1955 novel Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov.

The mining town was shocked when seven men were convicted of having se-x with girls under 16. Some were even as young as 11 in dagga-fuelled se-x romps near the town library.

One of the convicted men said the court would have been too small if they charged everyone involved.

The scene of the illicit drug-taking and lovemaking was straight out of a Madonna video, with teens heading to their local roller-skating rink to live on the wild side.

The Sunday Times article alleged that the men would entice young girls with liquor and cigarettes, while others didn’t need enticing and would proposition older men.

The town’s Dominee blamed video movies for the scandal.

“To my mind, video movies have played a larger role in corrupting the youth.”

The men were required to pay a R180 fine each or go to jail for 60 days.

Mamphela Ramphele and Steve Biko (1969)
Activist and politician Mamphela Ramphele wrote about her affair with Black Consciousness Movement leader Steve Biko in her autobiographies.

Mamphela Ramphele – A Life and Mamphela Ramphele: A Passion for Freedom detail how the two met and fell in love.

Ramphele wrote that she found it difficult to resist Biko’s advances, resulting in a love triangle between Biko, his wife Ntsiki Mashalaba, and Ramphele.

Ramphele had a child with Biko while he was still married at the time.

Se-x across the colour line made history in Excelsior (1970)
In the small town of Excelsior in the Free State five men described as ‘leading citizens’ were arrested under the Immorality Act for having se-x across the colour line.

One of the accused was a local Nationalist Party secretary and the other three were well-to-do farmers.

The fifth man, Johannes Calitz, a town councillor, shot himself after being released on bail.

The case against the men and women was withdrawn when the women refused to give evidence for the state.

According to the Sunday Times, the court could have forced the women to give evidence against the men, but it would have had to give them indemnity against prosecution.

The chairman of the United Party, Michael Mitchell, told the Sunday Times that the case placed the state in a dilemma.

“There would have been a public outcry against the use of African women to convict white men in this way,” he told the paper.

Members of the National Party within parliament put pressure on the minster of justice at the time, Petrus Pelser, to take a soft line on the case.

The case led to many within parliament and outside calling for a repeal of the Immorality Act. The ban on interracial se-x was lifted in 1985.

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The minister’s love affair (2013)
Dina Pule, the former communications minister, was embroiled in a scandal when she tried to cover up her affair with businessman Phosane Mngqibisa.

Mngqibisa was paid R6 million in management fees for the ICT Indaba after Pule’s department apparently forced the conference organiser to hire him.

The scandal included international trips, red Christian Louboutin shoes and missing millions.

Wine schoolgirls and song (1982)
A winter holiday course turned into a week of steamy revelry at the University of Cape Town.

The Engineering Winter School was a course for Matric pupils to attend if they were interested in becoming engineers.

But the schoolgirls and boys were exposed to the other side of college life, which included drinking into the early hours and according to the Sunday Times, ‘nights of seduction and song’.

Two of the student organisers who were responsible for taking care of the schoolchildren were fined R360 and R70 – the latter, according to the articles, was because he “slept with a Matric girl but didn’t make love to her”.

The Boesak affairs (1990)
In 1984, Dominee Dr Allan Boesak was accused of having an affair with a white woman who was an employee of the South African Council of Churches. The

‘Romeo Dominee’ later admitted to calling it a “unique and special relationship”.

Boesak’s marriage came to an end when he confessed to his wife that he was seeing journalist and television personality Elna Botha.

He divorced his wife in 1991 and married Botha.

Jani Allan and Eugène Terre'Blanche (1992)
The alleged affair between the liberal columnist Jani Allan and Afrikaner Weerstandsbeweging (AWB) leader Eugène Terre'Blanche was a scandal that gripped the country and the British media.

The alleged affair lead to a libel case in Britain after Channel 4 TV aired a programme that claimed that she had an affair with Terre'Blanche.

Linda Shaw, Allan’s former roommate, testified that while peering through the lock of her friend's bedroom door, she identified the two, even though she couldn’t see their faces.

Another witness the former AWB financial secretary Kays Smit recalled finding a drunken Terre'Blanche on Allan's couch, wearing only green unde-rpants with holes.

Allan also shared tapes with the Sunday Times of Terre'Blanche declaring his love for the journalist.

The court ruled in favour of Channel 4 TV, but Allan still maintains the affair never happened.

Zwelinzima Vavi in rape scandal (2013)
Rape allegations were raised against Cosatu general secretary Zwelinzima Vavi in 2013.

A woman employed by him at Cosatu’s headquarters in Johannesburg, and who was in a relationship with him claimed that Vavi raped her, in her office. She demanded a R2 million bribe for her silence.

Vavi admitted to having consensual se-x with the woman but denied raping her.

The accuser sent a letter to Vavi’s wife which stated: “This document serves as a written agreement that once my demands are met ... I will solemnly swear not to divulge any information regarding this matter.”

Vavi was suspended as general secretary of Cosatu.

He was only reinstated after the Johannesburg High Court set aside his suspension on April 4, 2014.

Big p3nis, big problem in a marriage: African Study

Big penis, big problem in a marriage: study

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A study into marital infidelity has found that longer pe nises are linked to wives cheating on their spouses.

The study, published in the online Journal PloS One, was led by US and Kenyan researchers, found that every extra inch boosts the likelihood of wives engaging in extramarital affairs.

"We included this variable because of the interest and controversies that surround men's pursuit of pe nile enlargement ostensibly to se xually satisfy their spouses while women do not necessarily approve of it," the researchers wrote.
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"Surprisingly, [having a] spouse [with a] longer fully ere ct pe nis was associated with increased likelihood of the women having extra-marital partnerships. From these results, every one inch longer pe nis increased the likelihood of women being involved in extra-marital partnership by almost one-and-half times," the researchers wrote.

This is apparently because a longer pe nis increases se xual discomfort. The researchers quoted one of the women in the study as saying, “…some pen ises may be large yet my va gina is small, when he tries to insert it inside, it hurts so much that I will have to look for another man who has a smaller one [pe nis] and can do it in a way I can enjoy”.

According to the study, domestic violence and denying a woman a preferred se x position also increased the likelihood of extra-marital relationships.

Meanwhile factors which reduce the likelihood of a wife cheating on her husband are her age (older wives were less likely to cheat), and how se xually satisfied she is.

“Some [men] just take a minute and leaves you there when you are still ‘hanging’… You cannot even tell if this thing is over or still continuing. Sometime we aren't satisfied yet we can't explain it [to our partners]. However, when we get men who can satisfy us, we do not waste such chances," one woman told the researchers.

LADIES=> 17 Reasons Why He IS NOT ASKING YOU Out Yet

He does everything that proves he likes you, but he isn’t asking you out yet? Here are 17 most common reasons why a guy may be holding himself back.

Is he giving all the right signs, but not really doing anything about it?

Does he flirt with you, stare at you, but hold back from asking you out or telling you that he likes you?

As frustrating as the circumstance could seem like, it’s a lot more common than you think!

Girls may assume that just batting their eyelids at a guy or smiling at him is enough of a sign for him to approach them.

But to a guy, there are a million ways to interpret your display of invitation.

Why isn’t he asking you out yet?

There are two ways of dealing with a crush in a guy’s mind, when it comes to making a move on the girl he likes. One, he makes a bold move and tells a girl he likes her instantly or within a few days of liking her.

Or the other way, he waits patiently and works his courage up to make sure he asks the girl out at the right moment, when he assumes she won’t decline him.

So is this guy who’s flirting with you just biding his time while waiting for the right moment, or does he have something else in mind?

17 reasons why a guy may hold himself back from asking you out

Every scenario is different. But surprisingly, almost always, if a guy behaves like he likes you and hits on you, but stops himself from asking you out, the reasons are just a few.

And these 17 reasons can sum up all the reasons behind why he’s withholding his display of love and stopping himself from telling you that he likes you.

#1 He’s intimidated by you. So you think you’re a warm and friendly person? Well, think again! Does he look at you or try to catch your eye often? Has he ever tried to talk to you by walking up to you? Perhaps, you see yourself as warm and friendly, but he thinks you’ll swat him away for even trying to talk to you!

Try to be more approachable and friendly. And when you have the odd chance of coincidence, give him enough opportunities to strike a conversation with you.

#2 He’s taken. Yes, he could be dating someone else, or worse, married already! Then why on earth is he staring at you? Well, in all probability, he likes the attention he’s getting back from you. Or perhaps, he’s looking for a fling thing, but just biding his time for the right opportunity to seduce you!
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#3 You’re too hot! If a guy flirts with you, sticks around you and displays every sign that he’s crazy about you, and yet, he holds back from asking you out, he may just think you’re too good for him.

If a guy thinks you’re a goddess who would never even be interested in dating a mere mortal like him, he may just choose to hang out with you and subtly flirt with you, instead of asking you out on a real date.

#4 You mean too much to him. Are the both of you good friends? Sometimes, however unlikely as this may seem, a guy may choose to stay friends with a girl he really likes instead of asking her out because he doesn’t want to ruin the perfect platonic relationship both of you share. Simply put, he doesn’t want to lose you as a friend in his pursuit of trying to date you.

#5 You’re taken. A guy may like you, but he may hold himself back from asking you out because he may have reasons to believe you like someone else or that you’re already seeing someone else. Your friends could have spread that rumor or he may have assumed it for some reason.

Now if you do like him, you need to make it clear to him *subtly* that you’re not interested in dating anyone but him.
#6 He’s a shy baby! They do make them this way even in these non-conservative times. A guy may show every sign of liking you from afar, and yet not make any move to approach you or talk to you. So what do you do? If you like him, well, drop a few signs and give him the reassurance he needs to man up and ask you out.#7 He finds you too easy. Guys say they’re put off by a girl who plays hard to get, but at the same time, if you come across as very easy, that’ll give a guy more reasons to walk all over you.

If you’re wondering why he hasn’t asked you out, ask yourself if you’re giving into him too easily. At times, a guy may not make the effort to pursue you because he knows you’re very into him already.

#8 The happy flirter. He flirts with you and teases you, but he has no intention of taking it forward. Perhaps, he likes you but doesn’t want to date you. Or maybe you aren’t the kind of girl he’s looking for. So until he finds the right girl, he may just choose to flirt with you and use you as the backup girl.

#9 He’s dating you in his mind. In his head, he thinks the both of you are together already. He’s not considered the idea of naming the relationship, nor has he realized that you need words of love or reassurance to feel better about the nameless relationship both of you share.

If you’re in this dilemma, you just need to get him to say the words out loud.

#10 He wants a fling with you. He may be a player who just wants a fling thing with you. You’ve asked him out already or you’ve hinted to him that you like him, but he deflects it and changes the conversation. But surprisingly, he’s still touchy flirty all the time. If a guy likes feeling you up and teasing you, but avoids all talk of commitment, he’s probably looking at you as a one night stand potential.

#11 You ask him out! This may seem rather silly, but there could be the possibility that this guy you like is just waiting for you to ask him out. If you really love a guy, dropping a few hints that you like him may just make the world conspire in your favor.

#12 He’s playing hard to get. He knows you like him a lot because you’ve made it pretty obvious to him time and again. And now, he’s waiting it out to see just how hard you’d try to win him over. Or maybe he just wants to keep the relationship casual until he can make up his mind because he knows you’ll come running into his arms whenever he wants you to.
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#13 He’s waiting for the right moment. He’s a softie or a romantic, and as much as he loves you and is crazy about you, he’s just waiting for the right moment to ask you out. But what’s this right moment, you ask? Well, who knows?! To make it easier, just make sure you give him several opportunities and alone time so he can work his courage up and ask you out.

#14 You’re a flirt. If there’s one kind of girl most guys prefer to stay away from, it’s the serial flirter who makes every guy feel like a potential suitor! If a guy you like thinks you’re a serial flirt, he may just end up leaving you for someone else because he can’t ever be sure about your sincerity towards him or your feelings for him.

#15 The wrong relationship. He may be cautious to ask you out because others that matter to him may frown upon the relationship. A few great examples that could fall into this are office relationships, a best friend’s ex lover, a relative, etc.

#16 Commitment issues. He’s never really been in a serious relationship with any girl, and he just doesn’t see himself getting tied down by a girl anytime soon. He may like you a lot, but his fear of commitment may be forcing him to bottle his feelings for you.

#17 He needs time. He could be a really good guy, but you may have come across him at the wrong time. He’s still healing from a past relationship that went sour, or he’s going through some serious issues in life that’s stopping him from committing to you or expressing his love for you because he doesn’t believe he’s ready to get into a new relationship just yet.

So are you wondering why the guy you like isn’t asking you out yet? Well, in all probability, these 17 signs will definitely give you the answer!

11 Things all women desperately want from men

11 Things women desperately want from men

Someone once said 'To generalize on women is dangerous. To specialize on them is infinitely worse'.

Well, what women want still remains the unanswered question across the globe.

However, men needn't lose hope for all is not lost. There are
still a good number of things that most women like. Here are a few from the long list which can perhaps help you make her fall head over heels in love with you. Take your pick to woo and sweep her off her feet!

1.Superman: Women love to be protected. So show in more ways than one to prove that you will be her saviour should your damsel land in distress! Women are always in awe of men who can step up in times of conflicts. Be sure you grab every opportunity that situation throws at you.

2.Smell good: Deodorant Ads may be going overboard showing men being lured by women's perfume. But the other way is also true. Choose a deo that suits you. Especially if it's your first date, it's best not to try anything experimental. Know what smells best on you. Remember, what smelt heavenly on your friend might stink on your skin! For everything depends on your body odour. When you spray perfume on your body, what you smell is a combination of the deo spray and your body odour. Choose wise.

3.Surprises galore: Women love surprises be it chocolates, love notes, gifts or even a bouquet of flowers. Women don't mind them in any numbers. You are sure to score brownie points with this one!

Someone once said 'To generalize on women is dangerous. To specialize on them is infinitely worse'.

Well, what women want still remains the unanswered question across the globe. However, men needn't lose hope for all is not lost. There are still a good number of things that most women like. Here are a few from the long list which can perhaps help you make her fall head over heels in love with you. Take your pick to woo and sweep her off her feet!

4.Superman: Women love to be protected. So show in more ways than one to prove that you will be her saviour should your damsel land in distress! Women are always in awe of men who can step up in times of conflicts. Be sure you grab every opportunity that situation throws at you.

5.Smell good: Deodorant Ads may be going overboard showing men being lured by women's perfume. But the other way is also true. Choose a deo that suits you. Especially if it's your first date, it's best not to try anything experimental. Know what smells best on you. Remember, what smelt heavenly on your friend might stink on your skin! For everything depends on your body odour. When you spray perfume on your body, what you smell is a combination of the deo spray and your body odour. Choose wise.

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6.Surprises galore: Women love surprises be it chocolates, love notes, gifts or even a bouquet of flowers. Women don't mind them in any numbers. You are sure to score brownie points with this one!

7.Transparency: Honesty is still the best policy. Never lie to her if you are thinking of a long-term relationship. Never mind you will face some initial flak, but eventually you will win over her trust.

8.Perfect body: What with the celebrities being obsessed with getting a six pack or eight pack abs, girls too go ga ga over men with a well-toned body. Get into the habit of regular workout so you can make heads turn!

9.Dress well: Nothing turns off a women than a poorly-dressed man. Do a style-check, spot the trends in fashion, speak to a stylist to find out what looks best on you. Clothes maketh man literally!

10,Crowning glory: Nothing like a funky haircut! A good hairstyle can give you a different look altogether. What are you waiting for? Get that stunner look so you can impress that chick you have been eyeing.

11.Magic of your hands: You might have taken your girlfriend to the hottest restaurants in town, yet she will not mind if you can cook one of her favourite dishes (or even plain instant noodles) when she's hungry. Such moments are never forgotten.

There's a joke doing the rounds that 'A woman's mind is cleaner than a man's That's because she changes it more often'. However, there are some things that remain constant.

12.Transparency: Honesty is still the best policy. Never lie to her if you are thinking of a long-term relationship. Never mind you will face some initial flak, but eventually you will win over her trust.

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>13.Perfect body: What with the celebrities being obsessed with getting a six pack or eight pack abs, girls too go ga ga over men with a well-toned body. Get into the habit of regular workout so you can make heads turn!

.14 Dress well: Nothing turns off a women than a poorly-dressed man. Do a style-check, spot the trends in fashion, speak to a stylist to find out what looks best on you. Clothes maketh man literally!

15.Crowning glory: Nothing like a funky haircut! A good hairstyle can give you a different look altogether. What are you waiting for? Get that stunner look so you can impress that chick you have been eyeing.

16.Magic of your hands: You might have taken your girlfriend to the hottest restaurants in town, yet she will not mind if you can cook one of her favourite dishes (or even plain instant noodles) when she's hungry. Such moments are never forgotten.

There's a joke doing the rounds that 'A woman's mind is cleaner than a man's That's because she changes it more often'. However, there are some things that remain constant.

LADIES=>How to know that he is ONLY after your BODY

LADIES=>How to know that he is ONLY after your BODY

Most women are caught between knowing whether a man is after her for s3x or is genuinely interested in her. Quite a number of ladies have resolved to keep men out of their business after "bad luck" with the few they've been with.

Before the advent of 'chips funga" men had to work their way up, or should i say in. A chic just wouldn't give it up a couple of beers and nyama choma later, you had to prove yourself. Basically, you had to be dating her to be sleeping with her. While it is faster and easier to get to 'Canaan' nowadays, there are those ladies who want to take the narrow long route before the oceans parts to make way for you into 'Canaan'. Here are afew pointers you can use to tell exactly what the dude is in it for.

1. Weekday lovers

If your guy has a virtual do not disturb sign up over the weekends, this is a clear sign that he is reserving weekends for someone else on his to-do list, or keeping his options open to meet other women. "Personally, when a girl is just a girl I'm into for s3x, I'll never ask her out on a weekend. Weekends are strictly reserved for A-listers and new opportunities. Lets take the Kenyan scenario, one invites you for blankets and wine and the other buzzes you on a random friday with Sepetuka tickets. The sepetuka guy most likely wants to score after the gig while the blankets and wine guy actually wants to chill and have a nice time with you.

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2. Sporadic contact

A guy who is really into you communicates with you regularly. A guy who is in it for the coochie, calls, texts, emails and pops-over only when he is feeling frisky and knows that you will indulge his desires. If the sight of your man's name on your caller ID surprises you, chances are, this is a se x only situation. I hear chics saying he doesnt call or text because he is too busy, unless he is a deep sea diver, no man would be too busy to text at least once or twice a day.

3. Invitation to nowhere

You never get invited to anything meaningful like dinner, movie or lunch its always for his boys birthday party at his crib in Umoja, a random night with the boys . Bottom line: "Dates" are always cozy nights in. Why? Because that is the easiest place to, you guessed it... to get laid. Everything falls into place its warm and cosy inside, the vibe is right, good music, you get tipsy, start dosing, offers shoulder, lips touch neck, lips connect , nearest bed is one second away and the rest is history..got it ladies?

4. Time's up!

You spend just enough time together for a little foreplay, s3x and maybe a nap. Unless there's time and desire for a round two, a s3x-only motivated man will vanish like a thief in the night before you even have time to nuzzle into little-spoon position. Sunday afternoon he says he is in the neighborhood, you invite him over, he gets in you offer a drink, he insists that you join him too, 30 minutes later he is in and out of Canaan. Next thing you know he is at the door getting his shoes back on heading over to Sheila's place to watch soccer now that you re watching Tahidi High reruns.

5. Late-night lovers

A sure in-it-for-the-s3x-only sign is when your man only reaches out to you after hours, when the day is done and quite possibly last call has been shouted. Although he coos for you sweetly on the other end of the phone, perhaps begging for your hot body, just know that you might be on a long list of lovelies, any of one of whom can satisfy his sexual cravings for the evening. Ladies you know this happens in July or those random Fridays when you re indoors alone, telly is boring and no movie, then he calls, makes you laugh and suggests he can come over or invites you to his. Looking at your situation, you jump for it either way , its turning out to be one hell of a boring night.

6. Tangoless texts

The se x-only guy is remorseless and feels no guilt whatsoever when it comes to leaving your texts unresponded to for hours - even days - and sometimes doesn't respond at all. Same goes for phone calls, emails, Facebook messages, tweets or any other form of communication. Problem is, the ones that respond promptly never get laid but the ones that dont get more than they can handle. It takes a mature girl who knows exactly what she wants to spare no time for a guy that isnt courteous enough to revert.

7. Se xy speak

You two speak one language: S3x. And that's it. If you think hard about it, you may know everything about how he likes "it" but you have no clue where his parents live, what he wanted to be when he grew up, his favorite meal, if he has a middle name. There's lots of moaning and groaning but no chatter about work, family, friends, problems, triumphs, etc. "A woman who presents herself as a sexual showpiece will be treated that way. Come to the table at the very beginning with more than just the ability to blow me away in the bedroom. Blow away my mind too and that way I'll consider you relationship worthy. eg if all the time he texts about how hot your bum looks on that snap you just posted on Instagram, be warned. If he is constantly on your Instagram but doesnt even follow you on Twitter, chances are he is only interested in what he can see and not you have to say.

12 Powerful Habits of Happy Relationships

Habits can have a powerful impact in your relationship. The definition of a habit is: “a consistent and regular pattern of behavior”. You can either create positive habits or negative habits, and once you start practicing them, they will eventually become an act that is unconscious. When it comes to having a happy relationship, there are certain habits that can have a powerful and positive impact. It’s important for you to be conciseness when creating routines, especially for your relationship.

You will need to make an effort every single day to practice them so they become second nature to you. It takes about 21 days to establish a habit, whether it’s positive or negative. In this article, I will share with you 12 powerful habits of happy relationships. These habits have helped both in my marriage, and for the couples that I have worked with. Implement each of these habits in your relationship and start reconnecting with your partner!

12 Powerful Habits of Happy Relationships ARE;

1. Always show respect to your partner

Showing respect to your partner is a habit that is worth creating, as it’s a necessary ingredient for creating a happy, healthy and long lasting connection. When you express respect towards your partner, you are expressing your love, acceptance, and warmth. When you express disrespect, you are expressing that you don’t accept your partner. Respecting your partner is all about valuing them for who they are, including differences. You may have a different outlook on life but this does not mean that you should disrespect your partner and put them down.

When you experience disagreements, make sure that you respect your partner’s differences. This does not allow you to disrespect your partner out in public or in front of friends and family. Always show respect especially when you have a disagreement. There will be times where you don’t agree on an issue and it will be how you handle this issue as a team that will make all the difference in the world.

2. Go walking with your partner

This is a habit that my husband and I have created where we have noticed a deeper connection in our relationship. If you love nature and spending quality of time with your partner, make it a habit to go walking—either in the mornings before you start your day, or in the evenings. John and I walk in the evenings and Sunday mornings. It is a mental decision that we make every day to go walking together. This promotes conversation, quality time, and exposure to fresh air. Once you establish this habit, your body will actually want to go walking. I’ve experienced this with John: Since we’ve made it a habit of walking in the evenings and Sunday mornings, my body craves to spend that quality of time. Walking with your partner also promotes good exercise, and can be as simple as walking up down your block and back. Decide with your partner how long and how often you would like to walk; the key factor is being on the same page and making sure that you make the mental decision to establish this habit together.

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3. Turn off the television in the evenings and be with your partner

How can you possibly connect with your partner when the television is always on? There is no connection building when the both of you are constantly staring at the television screen in the evenings. Make the mental decision to turn off the TV in the evenings, and spend quality time together. Occasionally, you can snuggle and watch a movie, but avoid watching television most evenings. Take time to ask your partner about their day and how they’re doing. This habit creates connection and love. Snuggle up on the couch and talk with your partner; talk about each other and what the two of you can do to develop your relationship. There will always be something to talk about, whether it’s planning for the next vacation or your next date night. Focus on developing your relationship, and talk about issues that need to be addressed.

4. Bring your partner coffee in the morning

This simple gesture means a lot to my husband. He enjoys drinking coffee, and bringing it to him in the morning expresses love and affection. If your partner likes to drink coffee in the morning, create this habit and express love through this act of service. When I bring John a cup of coffee, it shows that I care, and that this is one way I can love him. Wake up a few minutes earlier so that you and your partner can spend some quality time together before going to work. This is a simple yet powerful habit of happy relationships.

5. Express positive attributes about your partner to others

The habit of expressing positive attributes about your partner will help deepen the connection in your relationship. On the contrary, expressing negative attributes about your partner will only build a tall wall between the two of you. Do you know a couple that always argues in public and expresses negative traits about each other to friends? This is a bad habit that eventually destroys a relationship. This negative pattern of behavior creates mistrust, disconnection and lack of respect. Make a habit of expressing positive attributes to others. This positive pattern of behavior creates admiration, fondness and love.

6. Reconnect throughout the day

We have such busy schedules that connecting with your partner throughout the day can be last priority, but if you want to have a happy, long-lasting relationship, reconnecting with your partner throughout the day is crucial. It can be as simple as sending a loving text during your lunch break or giving your partner a call on the way home. This habit is meant to keep the connection and focus with your partner. Even if you have a hectic schedule, you can still make the time to spend a text message or give your partner a phone call. Be creative. Think of ways that you can do to reconnect with your partner throughout the day.

7. Speak your partner’s love language every single day

Gary Chapman wrote a great book on the5 love languages in which couples can express and experience their language of love and affection. When looking at these 5 love languages, take time to find out how you feel most loved and how your partner feels most love. Imagine you have a love tank inside of you. Every time your partner talks your love language, your love tank is being filled. Every time your partner doesn’t express your love language, your love tank runs low. When it comes to powerful habits of happy relationships, creating the habit of talking your partner’s love language on a daily basis establishes love, affection and warmth in your relationship.

8. Cooking and cleaning

It’s always much more fun when you cook with your partner. I know that I enjoy cooking a lot more when John helps out. The habit of cooking together creates intimacy, connection and love; making and eating food becomes an intimate act when you are with your partner. I express my love through cooking and eating with my husband (with the television off), which builds a deeper connection between us. This is a perfect opportunity to spend quality time together.

If you or your partner prefers doing the cooking, make it a habit that the other person cleans. A habit that John and I do is that whenever I cook, he cleans up afterwards, and vice-versa. When John cleans up after I cook, it shows appreciation for my cooking and that he values me. It’s important that you always appreciate and value your partner, even if it’s as simple as cleaning the dishes. It’s nice to to know that John appreciates the love that I put in my cooking and wanting to do the dishes is a sign of love affection.

9. Express appreciation to your partner every day

Appreciate your partner! It’s as simple as that. However you want to express appreciation in your relationship, do it. Do it every single day. When it comes to powerful habits of happy relationships, it’s about expressing your appreciation to your partner. This can be leaving a love note before going to work or bringing home flowers at the end of the love. This goes back to speaking your partner’s love language. Find out your partner’s love language and express your appreciation for your partner through their love language. If your partner feels move loved by quality of time, make sure that when you get home from work, “Turn off” and focus your attention on your partner. Sit on the couch and just be with your partner. Whichever love language that your partner speaks, make sure that you speak the same language. Make it a habit of showing appreciation to your partner every single day.

10. Work together as a team towards goals (short & long term)

A happy relationship focuses on short and long term goals. These goals are both for each individual and also as a couple. Unhappy couples have nothing to look forward to in life. They just waste their time on superficial nonsense and trying to live up to society’s standard of happiness. Focus within your relationship on creating, establishing and accomplishing goals. Happy couples have goals that are both small and big.

11. Spend quality of time in the morning to reflect and be with partner before starting the day

It’s easy to get into a training routine in which you wake up, eat breakfast, go to work, come home, eat dinner, watch TV, fall asleep and start all over again the next day. This routine definitely starts draining your relationship and the connection that you have with your partner. We have such busy schedules that it’s even more important to take time in the mornings and reflect with your partner. Focus on what brought you two together and appreciate that. It’s easy to allow stress, frustration and distractions to get in the way of having a happy relationship, but when you take the time in the mornings to love and appreciate your partner, you are establishing a habit that is filled with warmth, affection and care.

12. Snuggle in the mornings and evenings

Take the time to snuggle before starting your day and before going to bed. This can be as simple as holding each other in bed for a few minutes before starting the day. Did you know that physical touch releases a hormone called Oxytocin? The more you experience physical touch with your partner, your oxytocin level increases. After a long day of work, take time before going to bed and cuddle!

Photo: "My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me Because I Posted This Se xy Picture On Facebook"

She claimed her man broke up with her after seeing this picture (above) on Facebook.

Here's what she says;

"I use to think one of the reasons why my boyfriend loved me was the fact that i liked photographs more than anything, to the extent i went ahead and bought a very expensive camera.

In my many charades of snapping myself i discovered i liked this particular one very much and i wanted my friends to see and probably comment on it so i decided to drop it on facebook only to eventually end up with a breakup".

Please you have to help me cos i love him so much.

Sugar Mummy's N ude Pictures Leaked By Boyfriend

Things are gradually turning bizarre as Sugar mummies are beginning to lose their patrons, getting exposed at every little misunderstanding with their sugar boys. One cannot exactly ascertain the source of this latest one, but these photos are terrible. What do you think?

Two more pictures after the cut..................................
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Man Wakes Up From Coma, Immediately Says "I Love You" To Girlfriend

Man Wakes Up From Coma, Immediately Says "I Love You" To Girlfriend

The 39-year-old English man woke up from 10-day coma, while the relatives and friends had been said he would never make it.

Photo: Stewart and Chrissie Fryett

Stewart Fryett sustained severe injuries in the accident, which occurred in 2009, he was trapped in the back seat. His girlfriend of 6 months arrived minutes after the firefighters. Rushed to the James Cook University Hospital with brain injury Stewart was not going to come to himself, that was what the doctors thought.

However now, 5 years later, Chrissie already living happily with Stewart, recalled the moment of her beloved regaining consciousness days after the accident.

She was quoted saying by The Mirror:

"When he came out of it he still didn’t know who anyone was, but when he saw me he said, ‘I don’t know who you are, I don’t know what your name is but I know I love you.’"

Despite all the challenges and the hard the recovery period (lasting for 4 years), the couple managed to go through all the hardships.

Stewart and Chrissie are happily married and are currently expecting their first child.

Dad Who Killed Baby Girl By Throwing Her Into Stream Asks For Forgiveness

Dad Who Killed Baby Girl By Throwing Her Into Stream Asks For Forgiveness

Killer dad strapped his little daughter into a car seat and threw her into a stream asked for forgiveness, New Jersey, USA.

Arthur and his killed two-year-old baby girl, Tierra

Three years ago Arthur Morgan pretended to take his two-year-old daughter Tierra to the cinema but instead took her to a park, strapped her into a car seat, attached a heavy car jack and threw from a bridge into a stream.

Over time the baby's shoe was noticed by one of the passers-by and the girl's body was found in the stream. Despite the man's advocate insisted on Arthur's depression and insomnia at the moment of the murder the killer was sentenced for life imprisonment without parole on May 28.

It was learnt that Morgan had prearranged the killing and was going to flee to California. He claimed he did not like how his child was brought up by the mother and threw her in the creek "to let God decide her fate".

However the man confessed that he could still hear Tierra's last cry and apologized to the girl's mother: "I want to say I'm sorry for the deterioration of what I thought was a beautiful friendship between the two of us that blossomed into a daughter. For anybody that was truly affected by this, I hope we can all heal from this situation, knowing Tierra is in a better place."

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