8 sings that your woman is DONE with you......all men should read this!!!!

No matter how shocked you feel by a breakup, your ex most likely sent a few distress signals before she kicked you to the curb. “People really disengage when a relationship is about to end,” explains John Gottman, Ph.D., an expert in divorce prediction and author of What Makes Love Last? “Women try to let men know that they’re not happy.”

That means you have a chance to salvage your relationship before she totally checks out—as long as you’re adept at picking up on her cues:  On average, women decide to call it quits after just 6 days of deliberation, according to a survey by SheLeft.Me, a breakup site for men. Translation: You need to act fast when you spot these signs of relationship trouble.

1. She criticizes your grammar when you fight.

Imagine this scenario: In the middle of a fight, you declare, “I could care less”—and rather than trying to understand your angst, your partner smugly replies, “Actually, you should say, ‘I couldn’t care less.’” She's not just being a grammar Nazi, Gottman says. “She’s saying it from a superior place. It’s an attempt to make you small and meaningless.”

This kind of condescension is a classic sign of contempt—the number one predictor of early divorce in Gottman’s research. “It’s a really acidic, destructive way of eating away a person’s self-esteem,” he says. Even if her words aren't scathing, you can see scorn all over her face: The signature expression is pulling the left corner of the mouth to one side, creating a dimple, often with an eye roll for extra effect.

2. She consistently cheats on your Netflix shows.

Your nightly Netflix ritual is about more than Mad Men. It’s about the two of you as a team, says Monica Lieser, a licensed marriage and family therapist. And that kind of connection breeds contentment: “When couples invest in creating and maintaining rituals, they have more longevity,” she says. So when your little habits—whether it’s a walk every night after dinner, or calling each other on your lunch break—start to dissolve, you lose a critical part of your bond. “A shared experience all of a sudden starts to feel like a chore,” she says. “The engagement somehow doesn’t feel good anymore.”

3. She makes sweeping generalizations about you.

“You always come home late” is a much weightier accusation than “You didn’t put the dishes away last night.” This kind of global criticism—marked by words like "always" and "never"—is a serious predictor of a split, according to Gottman’s research. (Another classic line: “What’s wrong with you?”) “The reason it’s so harmful is that it’s so non-specific,” he says. “It’s really damning the entire character and personality of the partner.” The result: You just feel attacked—which rarely, if ever, leads to a productive conversation about the relationship.

4. When you voice your concerns, she only gets defensive.

Relationship troubles go both ways—which means both of you will occasionally have to own up to screwing up. Unfortunately, defensiveness is a more natural reaction. And it’s a destructive one. “It takes two forms. One is the counterattack—I’m going to attack you 10 times harder than you attacked me,” says Gottman. “The other form is acting like an innocent victim, whining as you’re talking. Why are you picking on me? What about all the good stuff I do?” If your partner can’t ever admit to her mistakes, she’s placing the weight of the relationship entirely on your shoulders. And you can’t sustain that.
5. She turns down requests for things she used to do.

Maybe your girlfriend used to willingly proofread your work emails. Or always offered to take your shirts to the dry-cleaner. Now she treats those little favors as infringements. Odds are she hasn’t just become suddenly selfish. There’s a good chance she no longer feels valued by you—a potent relationship killer—so she’s not interested in making your life easier, says Lieser.

6. You’re unable to talk about your s3x life.

You’d probably freak out if the s3x suddenly dropped off, but that's not the most pressing problem—it's communication. “Frequency is just a measure of behavior,” says Lieser. In other words, how often you knock boots tells you very little about the strength of your bond: Even if a couple only has s3x once a month, but have mutually decided what works for them, their connection can still be strong.

By contrast, if a couple messes around 20 times a month—but can’t talk specifically about their likes and dislikes—their relationship is likely lacking emotional intimacy, which creates desire, says Lieser. And as Gottman points out, if one partner starts to lose interest or feel dissatisfied, but can’t explain why, the other is just left feeling rejected.

7. You often eat dinner in silence.

Your relationship isn’t necessarily doomed if you dine in silence—but it definitely needs some work. “The foundation of a healthy relationship is friendship,” says Lieser. If you have nothing to talk about, you probably aren’t pals with your partner—which means your relationship can only last so long after the passion fades. And, in the long term, friendship breeds more than good conversation: It leads to playfulness in the bedroom and allows you to openly discuss your needs, s3xual or otherwise, says Lieser.

8. She's been having a lot of girls' nights lately.

That time with her gal pals won't kill your connection—but it will when she hangs with them in an effort to avoid you, Lieser says. So how can you tell when her nights out mean trouble? Ask about her evening when she comes home. If she doesn’t dish the details—say, some creeper bought her best friend a drink, or she tried an awesome new cocktail—then that shows she’s not interested in involving you in her personal life. And that probably signals a bigger issue, since “partnerships are all about sharing yourself with somebody else,” says Lieser.

7 Ways your relationship can hurt your health

1.For better or worse

Can your relationship status make a difference in your overall well-being? To borrow a commonly used Facebook phrase, it's complicated. Research shows that strong partnerships can help us avoid illness, adopt healthier habits, and even live longer. On the other hand, troubled relationships tend to breed stress and weaken immunity.

"So many factors affect our health, whether it's the behaviors we exhibit toward each other or the habits that we pass on to each other," says psychologist Maryann Troiani, PhD, co-author of Spontaneous Optimism. So whether you're dating casually, shacking up, or already married, keep in mind these 12 key ways your romantic bond may influence your mind and bod
2.Weight gain

It's a common belief that couples "let themselves go" after pairing off, and there may be something to it. According to a 2012 review, people tend to gain weight as they settle into marriage and lose weight when a marriage ends.

But Troiani has seen the opposite happen quite often, as well: "A happy couple can motivate each other to stay healthy—they'll go to the gym together, set goals, and feel responsible for each other." When couples do pack on the pounds, she adds, it may be a symptom of conflict, not slacking off. "Dissatisfaction in the relationship can lead to passive-aggressive eating behaviors and sleep problems, which will lead to weight gain," she say
3.Stress levels

Surprise, surprise: Regular physical intimacy appears to reduce stress and boost well-being. One study, published in 2009 in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, found that people who frequently had sex were healthier mentally and more likely to report greater satisfaction with their relationship and life overall.

Sex is just one aspect of a relationship, however. And your partner's behavior outside the bedroom can just as easily send stress levels soaring in the opposite direction. Parenting disputes, disagreements over money, or even questions as simple as who does which household chores have been shown to increase stress.
4. Feel-good hormones

Sex isn't the only type of physical contact that can lower stress and improve health. In a 2004 study of 38 couples, University of North Carolina researchers found that both men and women had higher blood levels of oxytocin—a hormone believed to ease stress and improve mood—after hugging. The women also had lower blood pressure post-hug, and lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol.

"These types of caring behaviors are so important: a touch on the arm, holding hands, a rub on the shoulder," Troiani says. "It only takes a few seconds of contact to stimulate those hormones and to help overcome stress and anxiety.
5.Sleep problems

Sleeping next to someone you love and trust can help you fully relax and embrace sleep, Troiani says. A big exception to that rule, of course, is if your bedmate keeps you up at night—by snoring, for instance, or by tossing and turning. In a 2005 poll, people were more likely to experience daytime fatigue and fitful sleep themselves if their partner was struggling with insomnia.

Relationships can affect sleep in less direct ways, too. Research shows that relationship insecurity or conflict is associated with poorer sleep—and to make matters worse, sleep problems can exacerbate relationship problems, creating a vicious cycle
6.Anxiety

Relationship difficulties can put anyone on edge, but in some cases they may actually contribute to full-blown anxiety. Several studies have found a link between marital problems and an increased risk of diagnoses such as generalized anxiety disorder and social anxiety.

These links can be difficult to untangle, however, since anxiety has been shown to breed relationship problems (and not just vice versa). What's more, some research suggests marriage may help protect against anxiety. In a 2010 World Health Organization study of 35,000 people in 15 countries, those who were married—happily or otherwise (the study didn't specify)—were less likely to develop anxiety and other mental disorders
7.Depression

Depression and anxiety often go hand in hand, so it makes sense that relationships can affect depression in similarly complex ways. On the one hand, some studies have found that long-term relationships—and marriage, specifically—can ease symptoms in people with a history of depression.

On the other hand, fraught relationships have been shown to dramatically increase the risk of clinical depression. In one small but highly cited study, women—regardless of their personal and family history of depression—were six times more likely to be clinically depressed if their husbands had been unfaithful or if their marriages were breaking apart

Things you should know after loosing your first love.......

Losing your first love is no easy situation. I know, we’ve all probably had this happen to us, since it is rare most #people end up marrying their first love. Losing your first love is not the end of the #world, and there is a lot you can learn about losing that first special person in your life. Losing my first love was certainly not a walk in the park, but it taught me several #things about myself and love in general that I think are important. Keep these tips #below in mind if you’re struggling with losing your first love.
1. You Are Still Worthy

Losing your first love can cause a lot of insecurity within, and it can make us want to shy away from relationships for a while. Remember that just because you lost your first love doesn’t mean you’re not worthy of love. If the breakup was your fault and you feel a need to make amends, so be it. If it wasn’t your fault, however, remember that it doesn’t mean you aren’t worthy enough to have made the #relationship work. You need to keep all this in mind so it doesn’t cause you to start believing lies about yourself, or what relationships you deserve to have in life.

REASONS WHY YOU SHOULDN'T KEEP YOUR V!RGINITY FOR YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND

"Believing that true love waits, I make a commitment to God, myself, my family, my friends, my future mate and my future children to be s3xually abstinent from this day until the day I enter a biblical marriage relationship. As well as abstaining from s3xual thoughts, s3xual touching, pornography, and actions that are known to lead to s3xual arousal.”

At the age of 10, I took a pledge at my church alongside a group of other girls to remain a virgin until marriage. Yes, you read that right — I was 10 years old.

Let’s take a look at who I was as a 10-year-old: I was in fourth grade. I played with Barbie dolls and had tea parties with imaginary friends. I pretended I was a mermaid every time I took a bath. I still thought boys were icky and I had no idea I liked girls, too. I wouldn’t get my period for another four years. And most importantly, I didn’t have a clue about s3x.
The church taught me that s3x was for married people. Extramarital s3x was sinful and dirty and I would go to Hell if I did it. I learned that as a girl, I had a responsibility to my future husband to remain pure for him. It was entirely possible that my future husband wouldn’t remain pure for me, because he didn’t have that same responsibility, according to the Bible. And of course, because I was a Christian, I would forgive him for his past transgressions and fully give myself to him, body and soul.

Once I got married, it would be my duty to fulfill my husband’s s3xual needs. I was told over and over again, so many times I lost count, that if I remained pure, my marriage would be blessed by God and if I didn’t that it would fall apart and end in tragic divorce.

Story to be continued tomorrow

Men's secrets:5 SURE WAYS TO GET A WOMAN TO HAVE S*X WITH YOU!

1.Be Attentive
S*x is a journey, not a destination. It’s time to realize that the real goal of s*x is to satisfy the other person. Some younger guys haven’t yet figured one out; they see s*x as a way to pleasure themselves, as in, a selfish act. An older woman knows how to have an orgasm (plenty of 20-something women have never had one). If you learn to focus on satisfying your partner first, you’ll find that s*x will become a more fulfilling experience for both partners.

2.Be Honest
Once you jump into bed with an older woman, forget about trying to manipulate her with your disingenuous promises. Be upfront about who you are and what you want, including if you are looking for a relationship or just a hookup. She knows all the games guys play — she just wants honesty.

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3.Don’t Be An Assh*le
Kindness rules with older women. While some men seem to think nice guys finish last, you will not be successful with an older woman by acting like a prick. These women are done with bad boys, so be your most gentlemanly self.

4.Confidence
This is the one thing you can fake if you must. Confidence is especially important for an older woman. She wants someone who is sure of himself. Regardless of whether or not you feel completely secure, act the part. Say things that exude your confidence and walk into a room with your head held high.

5.Discretion
Older women expect the details of their s*xcapades to remain secret. They don’t feel the need to brag to their friends, so if you’re still acting like a frat boy, high-fiving your bros after each lay, she’ll pick up on your immature attitude toward s*x. She’ll move on to the next young stud who’s more responsive to her needs for discretion.

It should come as no surprise that older women come with a lot of wisdom. Many have spent some time alone, and they may prefer solidarity as an alternative to dealing with someone who doesn’t treat them with the utmost respect. By this point in their lives, they know both what they want and what they don’t.

Has My Woman Been “Faking It” In The Bedroom This Entire Time?!....Advice needed.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard men say “If my woman was faking it, I’d know!”
Oh yeah, I’m sure you would.

As admirable as it is that men so confidently believe they know just how their women think & feel, or more importantly, that they definitely satisfy her in bed, the truth is women fake org@sms. Actually, about 99% will admit to at least faking it more than once, and for some, it’s all the time. And almost always, men can’t tell the difference.

Although women are a lot more vocal about their s3x lives now in the 21st Century, many women don’t feel comfortable telling a man how they like things done in bed, let alone admitting that he really isn’t doing it for her at all, because the truth is, women understand just how fragile the male ego really is. Men would like to believe that when they are making love to a woman, they’re giving her the best experience of her life, every single time or at least that they’ve satisfied her better than a previous partner ever could. And most are even convinced that they know the signs; one being how ‘dripping wet’ she becomes (which is hardly an indicator just to let you know!)

Knowing all this, how does one then begin to confess that they didn’t org@sm this time, or – for at least 10% of all women- never org@sm at all?
Wait, so do you mean to say some women never org@sm at all? Yes, that is exactly what I said. It’s called anorg@smia, the inability to reach org@sm either by any means or during certain s3xual situations, and believe me when I say, it’s actually quite normal.

At this point, you’re probably asking why would she fake it?
The reasons could be endless, but there are a few common reasons.
1.) She’s tired, and wants nothing more than for it to be over and you to get off her.
2.) She may feel guilty that she’s taking too long, so faking it will give you the signal that you no longer have to work on it.
3.) She wasn’t in the mood in the first place, but to avoid any arguments or unnecessary tension, she just decided to go along with it.
4.) She’s mad at you, maybe not mad enough to tell you, but just know she’s cussing you in her mind and smiling about how you are such an idiot you can’t tell the difference.
5.) You just don’t turn her own. Your beer gut and smelly breath makes her cringe everytime but maybe she loves you too much to hurt your feelings, or doesn’t love you at all and has her own ulterior motives, so she’ll pretend to enjoy it and end it with an Oscar-winning climax.

So where do we go from here?

You’ve just figured out your girlfriend or wife has probably been faking it this entire time, do you ask her about it? Do you beat yourself up for being the worst lover possible on the face of the planet? Do you now swear off women forever and move into a cave in the mountains?
The latter would probably be extremely difficult for most, but what you can do is your research to find out other ways you can stimulate your woman, or perhaps try asking her what she likes next time, if at the very least, she’ll know you care enough about her to put in the effort of helping her achieve a REAL one.

by Brenda K

Research!!Men who sleep with multiple women reduce their risk of pr0'strate cancer

Some men will like this ..A new research claims, men who sleep with multiple women are less likely to develop prostrate cancer.The Researchers found men who have more than 20 s3xual partners slashed their risk of pr0'state cancer by 28 per cent.And  men who have slept with more than 20 women reduced their chances of getting the most aggressive tumours by 19 per cent.

It further states that ,Cel!bacy doubles the risk of the disease.The rationale behind the findings is that regular intercourse may flush out cancer causing chemicals as the prostate secretes the bulk of the fluid in s3men.The study claims m@sturbation and having much s3x with one partner doesn't count ..

When asked if it meant health authorities would encourage men to sleep with many women in their lives to protect against pr0'state cancer, Professor Marie-Elise Parent replied:

'We are not there yet. 'It is possible that having many female sexual partners results in a higher frequency of ej@culations, whose protective effect against pr0'state cancer has

The research was published in the journal Cancer Epidemiology.

Lies We Believe About Men: Men Only Want One Thing!

By Juli Gorman.

What more could he possibly want from me?
Greg seemed dissatisfied with our love-making. Displeased, discontented, and disappointed. Put a “dis” in front of it, and Greg probably experienced it.
I felt him becoming more and more distant.

“What’s the matter?” I asked, exasperated.

Without skipping a beat, Greg responded. “I want you to want me!”

I seethed with anger and thought to myself. What? You want me to want you? Oh, please! Get over yourself. I am so sick and tired of not measuring up to your standards. Why am I never enough for you? I never deny you sex. Give me a break!

“I don’t want to just have s3x with you, Julie. I want you to want me,” Greg continued. “I don’t just want to have sex. I want to make love. I want to connect. I want you to want to kiss me passionately.”

TV scenarios of women dropping everything to respond passionately to their lover’s touch flashed through my mind.

Seriously, Greg? You’re going to complain about my level of passion now? Most men would feel ecstatic if their wife didn’t say no to their physical advances. It’s not enough that I push my fatigue to the side to engage with you in bed? It’s not enough that when I’m not in the mood I willingly avail my body. No, that’s not enough for you! Now, you want me to rip off your T-shirt at the drop of a hat and be some bubbling bombshell who …

Greg interrupted my thoughts. “Julie, I just want you to want me.” It was the third time he’d used that phrase, and I couldn’t take it any longer.

“You want me to want you?” I erupted. “Greg, I have never denied your needs. I’ve never declined your advances. I’ve never—ever—ever said no to you!” I snarled with prideful disdain. He couldn’t rebuff that!
“You’re right. You may have never said no, Julie … but you’ve also never said yes.”

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As I looked into my husband’s eyes, I saw something I never noticed before. Greg displayed a passion for me, not just my body. I began to realize he wanted me to say yes to him in my heart, to love him with my soul, to connect with him in my mind. And so did God!

Unfortunately, my view of sex swung on a pendulum of great extremes, both of which were wrong! On one side, I manipulated sex to maintain and keep Greg’s affection. On the other side I despised and held sex in contempt, secretly angry and privately disgusted by its demands. I performed sex out of fear of what would happen if I didn’t. My limiting thoughts stifled my expression of love. I didn’t want to feel that way, but I couldn’t help how I felt. I desperately needed God’s intervention to overcome the lie that Men only want one thing.
Here’s the danger of believing that lie.

As a single person, if I believe that Men only want one thing, I am more likely to make concessions to my faith and compromise my standards, believing this is what I’m supposed to do next.

As a married woman, if I believe Men only want one thing, I’m tempted to treat sex as an item on my busy to-do list. Let’s see: I dropped off the dry cleaning, check. Chauffeured the kids to school, check. Made dinner by 6:00, check! Had sex with my husband, check! Check! Check! And, in the process, I miss out on the sexual intimacy and oneness God intended.
The deception that a man only wants one thing violates God’s design.

It mis-aligns God’s plan. God intended s3x as a celebration of oneness—oneness of body, mind, and spirit reserved for the union of a husband and wife in holy marriage.

Married women, ask, “Do I express tenderness and connection in my love-making?” If not, ask God for a greater int!macy and renewed passion.

Single women, ask, “Have I given away my affection outside of God’s design?” If so, ask for His forgiveness, and commit to express s3xual int!macy only within the confines of marriage.

God wants husbands and wives to enjoy His gift of sexual intimacy within the confines of marriage. He desires us to celebrate the marriage bed and keep it holy. And within the confines of marriage, God encourages us to drink in intimacy and embrace unity with our spouse, not treat sex as another duty needing to be checked off our ever-growing list of responsibilities.

For more help on this topic, pick up a copy of What I Wish My Mother Had Told Me About Men. You’ll discover strategic Scriptures, questions, and practical applications to align your thoughts with God’s and life-transforming insights on how to experience a more intimate relationship with Him.

For Women – 5 Reasons Your Husband Is Not Giving You s*x Anymore!

1. Physical Problems Can Make a Husband Not Want s3x
If he will, get him to talk to the doctor. Some medications can lower his s3x drive. He could also have low testosterone. In other cases, their s3x drive is lower because the husband has had impotence issues and he’s afraid to try again. Impotence, though, can be a signal that there is a circulatory problem, and often is a sign that heart disease, diabetes, or kidney disease may be starting. So a doctor’s visit is definitely in order!

In most cases of younger men with decreased l!bido, though, it’s not a physical issue. It’s more likely an emotional/psychological one. Let’s start with these issues.

2. Stress/Emotional Problems Can Lower a Guy’s s3x Drive
In this economy, many men don’t feel like men anymore because they can’t provide for their families well. If this is the case, go out of your way to show your husband you do appreciate him and you do look up to him. But whatever you do, don’t baby him. If he’s feeling emasculated already, he doesn’t want you trying to make it better or fix it for him. Show him you think he’s capable. Be a listening ear, but don’t be his nurse.

In a similar way, we can undermine our husbands with the way we talk without realizing it. I know many good, Christian women who belittle their husbands in public quite a bit without apparently cluing in to what they’re doing. When you open up your mouth to say something about your husband to others, make sure it’s laudatory. Praise him in some way. If he’s telling a story and he’s getting it wrong, don’t correct him all the time. Let it go. And when you’re alone, make sure that you express gratitude as much as you express criticism. Even more. I have known men who have withdrawn s3xually simply because they had ceased to feel like men in the relationship. The woman had taken over everything.

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3. Lack of Friendship Can Quench Desire
Often when there is a problem in the marriage it shows up in the bedroom. But because the SYMPTOM is in the bedroom, we often think the SOLUTION is too. So we concentrate on solutions that have to do with s3x–buying lingerie, playing risque games, getting toys, trying new things.

In reality, often the solution is found outside the bedroom. s3x embodies our spiritual, emotional, and relational selves. What I often suggest to women whose husband have a low s3x drive that isn’t due to a physical problem or stress is that you work on your friendship. Spend more time together. Take a walk after dinner. Find a hobby you can enjoy together. Do something that he likes, even if you don’t (like watch hockey games) simply so you can be together.

Often couples get into a rut where they spend their lives doing errands and watching TV. That isn’t going to help your relationship. If you want to spice things up, don’t look at the bedroom. Look at the gym. Or the ice rink. Or the restaurant. Do stuff together. Cultivate a real relationship. Start talking again.

Often this helps you feel connected, and then, even if the s3x doesn’t always follow, at least you feel more kindly towards each other.

4. p0'rnography Use Can Obliterate a Man’s Desire for His Wife
The main culprit of a low male s3x drive, though, of course, is p0'rnography. The more men are into p0'rnography, the less they are into s3x in real life. p0'rn trains the brain to be aroused by an image, and not a relationship, and is extremely destructive. p0'rn is not harmless; the effects of p0'rn are really far-reaching. If your husband is into p0'rnography, get help! Talk to a pastor. Talk to a mentor. It’s not okay to be a p0'rn addict. It’s not harmless. It just isn’t.

p0'rnography and m@sturbation go hand in hand. If he is using p0'rn, he’s also m@sturbating and thus getting rid of his s3xual tension in another way. He’s also less likely to be able to get in the mood with a real, live person, like you. So if this is the issue, it must be addressed. I’ve written before on this topic, on how to recover from a p0'rnography addiction. I think it will help. And I have lots more links to other posts on the subject here.

5. Maybe There is No Reason for His Low s3x Drive
Finally, for some men, there simply won’t be a reason that he doesn’t want to make love. You have a higher s3x drive than he does. Maybe it’s even as if your husband has no s3x drive and never wants to have s3x! Think about it this way: in any given population, some men will be really short, and some really tall. Some will have really big hands, and some really small ones. We vary, and some people are on the extremes. By definition, 5% of men will have abnormally low s3x drives without any apparent problem or cause. It’s just the way they are.

What do you do? Accept him, and more than ever, work on your friendship. Make sure there is goodwill between you, that you can laugh together, that you can do things together. The more you laugh, the more you’re able to talk, and you can share with him how you feel. Just because he has a low s3x drive, for instance, doesn’t mean that he can’t make love. He can! And he can even increase his s3x drive by making love more frequently (the use it or lose it phenomenon), and even by exercising and building muscle, which builds testosterone levels, too. If he lays off the beer, that can also help, because beer has a chemical that acts in the body in a similar way to estrogen.

But more than anything, you’ll just have to learn that this is the man you married. Get your peace in God, work in your friendship so you don’t feel emotionally rejected, and learn to love him anyway.

7 Things You shouldn’t Put Up With In Your Relationship!

Things like:
1.Emotional abuse- A lot of people limit abuses in relationship to physical abuse and to them, any form of abuse makes the woman (only) the victim.

This is not true.

Men also can be victims of emotional abuse from their women and it can be as horrible as when it happens the other way round.

Someone who emotionally abuses you, takes you for granted, tells you in subtle or non subtle ways that you are not worth it, should not be held on to.

2.Cheating, especially serial cheating- There have been various reasons why people cheat. I have heard from the downright ridiculous to what seemed like a “reasonable” reason to cheat.

However, cheaters are not usually the best people to be in a relationship with. Your emotions are likely to go back and forth and you are most likely going to get hurt a bit too much.

Its usually worse when you are with a serial cheater, those ones who constantly cheat and with no reason whatsoever to.

You should not put up with this type of people, its never really worth it.

3.Lying- This usually goes hand in hand with cheating. A cheater most times, lies about everything he or she thinks would cover up their dirty habit.

A lying partner is one that would hurt you deep and the best thing is to leave this type of person be, because except you love being lied to, people like this hurt their partners a lot.

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4.Physical abuse- He hits you, she hurls the closest dangerous object at you when you are having an argument, He slaps you when he thinks you are being stubborn, she bites you or tries to steer the wheel in a dangerous direction when you fight… Whatever your situation is, physical abuse is a valid reason to quit your relationship.

It is not healthy for you and except you are both hoping to end up dead, then you should leave right now.

5.Makes you unsafe- Your relationship should be your safe haven. If you are not safe in your relationship and it is the last place you want to be every time, it means you need to leave like yesterday.

Your partner should be your team mate, the one person who cheers you on and always has your back. Not someone who makes you feel awful all the freaking time and who makes your relationship somewhere you always want to run from.

6.Disrespect- If your spouse loves and cares about you, then they would never disrespect you.

If your man/woman never respects you in your relationship then time is now to leave.

7.Never carries you along- And I mean from him/her hanging out every Friday night to making key decisions in his life without your knowledge.

Most times, we think its okay if our partner doesn’t tell us his/her plans for the weekend and several pictures surface days later to show he/she has been hanging with the buds.

Not like you should be updated every second, but knowing where your partner is, is very important and someone who wouldn’t tell you about things as simple as Friday night plans is not likely to include you when planning something big.

Oh trust me, it works like that.

He/she doesn’t let you in on the small stuff? then you would be surprised by the big stuff too!

There are more things an individual should not put up with in relationships, share your thoughts on other things you think should be a no-no and a valid reason to walk.

10 Things Every Woman Should Do In Her Twenties!

1. Date, or even just have s3x with, a ridiculously hot guy. I mean, or fall in love with him? But you probably won't, because there is a good chance he will want to talk about the plot of his novel or how much he loved being on a commune or some other bullshit like that.

2. Go abroad. Ultimately, spending money on experiences is more important in your 20s than spending it on stuff. Exposing yourself to a different culture will make you a better, more broad-minded person, plus the FOOD, GUYS.

3. Wear crazy neon crop tops to music festivals. Now's the time.

4. Take a lot of Instagram pictures. 'Tis the age for many unabashed selfies, so that when your adult child is spoon-feeding you Yankee Beans in the nursing home, have proof that you were once dewy-skinned and had a life.

5. Pick up a sport you've never played before, even if you suck at it. That way you don't have to drag yourself to yoga as often, you can meet a new bunch of people to drink with, and you can buy cute sneakers.

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6. Eat whatever. Literally whatever. I have thought about mainlining super-cheesy, super-carby lasagna bolognese with more depth and nuance than I have thought about loved ones. Ignore the nutritional label and don't look back. EVER.

7. Drink a lot of green juice. Not to lose weight, but to balance out the bolognese. It probably sounds like it tastes like the Jolly Green Giant's jizz, but it's shockingly energy-boosting when fresh.

8. Spend time with your parents. Because they're getting older and you don't want to regret not doing it down the line.

9. Read Edith Wharton books. Specifically The Touchstone and New York Stories, because they're all about twentysomething men being weak and wishy-washy and women being smarter and more interesting than them. Also, ballgowns.

10. Keep a journal/sketchbook/scrapbook. Think about how much you are drinking in this decade. You'll want to remember things, and it will be hard if you don't keep some kind of record.

-cosmo

7 Types of Sex - Which One Is The Most Exciting?

There are plenty of "types" of s3x that turn people on. I've compiled a list, and I think it proves that tension is the ultimate spark that creates great/fun s3x:

1.Makeup s3x

Makeup s3x is the release of tension created by an argument. It appeals to humankind's masochistic side: the emotional pain of an argument, cured by the high of healing through great s3x.

I wonder if people start arguments with their significant other just to set up the possibility of makeup s3x. I'm so hard headed, and bent on winning, that once the arguing starts, I can't stop.

I'd probably still be thinking: "did I give in too easily," right in the middle of the s3x.

2.Random s3x

The one night stand/random encounter is much like eating McDonald's. While you're doing it, it feels amazing, but afterward you feel awful and guilty.

While a one night stand might pump up my ego, I bury myself in shame afterward, worrying about all the other consequences of the risk I took.

3.Risky s3x

People get a thrill from the possibility of being caught (perhaps in an airplane bathroom), or  having something go terribly wrong (like doing it on a roof, or somewhere dangerous).

I have enough to worry about during s3x, so I shouldn't set myself up to worry about more.

4.Spontaneous s3x

Spontaneous s3x is the "grab each other and go at it" style. Of course, this could happen anytime, anywhere, so you end up diving on to a kitchen table, for example, and going at it on a whim.

Movies set a high standard for spontaneous s3x. It's a hot idea, but I'm not sure I could make it as good as they do in the movies. I'm rarely hyper focused on attraction or s3x enough at random times to engage in grabbing her and going at it.

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5.Kinky s3x

From dressing in a mascot suit, to having people watch you, to threesomes, kinky s3x would be defined as anything outside the realm of normalcy. "Normalcy" is a relative term, varying from person to person, so it's complicated.

Personally, I would need to be extremely comfortable with someone to try certain things. Also, I'm way too lazy to get too kinky. The process of shopping for, and applying things (such as costumes or handcuffs) is way too much effort.

While I consider myself someone who likes to do outlandish things, I'm still struggling to get comfortable with s3x. If regular s3x is Algebra I, then kinky s3x is Trigonometry.

6.Forbidden s3x

For some reason, I think forbidden s3x is pretty hot. Perhaps it appeals to my desire to test the boundaries and do the wrong thing from time to time.

Cheating on someone or with someone, hooking up with your best friend's ex, a co-worker, or the person that your friends and/or family don't approve of would all be considered forbidden s3x. I've had a few scrapes with this, but I should stick to fantasizing. Forbidden s3x is forbidden because someone, somewhere, will be hurt.

7.Consistent Casual s3x

Casual s3x can be exciting because there are no strings attached and you can experiment because your comfort level grows with each encounter.

But I think casual s3x is impossible and unhealthy, because at some point someone will care, and most likely get hurt for caring.

Some of these types can overlap. For example, you could have Spontaneous Random Forbidden Kinky Risky s3x.

Almost all s3x is culmination in a way, whether there's a short or long period of tension-building. The right tension building and correct timing and release of this tension is all you need.

Many of these types of s3x might help in keeping a s3x life spicy in long term relationships. People are constantly looking for new ways to build tension as their relationships mature. Hopefully they avoid negative ways (cheating), and focus on cultivating this tension with their significant others.

What type of s3x turns you on the most? What are your thoughts on my list, and what would you add to the list? What role does tension play in good s3x for you?

You Can Tell if a Guy's Cheating Just by Using this single trick!

At one point or another, we've all wished we had psychic powers so we could know for sure whether or not our partner was cheating on us. Ideally, you trust your partner and red flags would never indicate that might be happening, but sometimes you date someone and some small part of you thinks, Maybe? Now there's a new study to help you out [via PSMag].

Brigham Young University psychologists studied 51 undergraduates (35 women, 16 men) who were in romantic relationships and asked them about their relationships, including whether or not they'd ever cheated.

Then they videotaped conversations between the couples and asked unbiased third parties to watch the videos and decide if one, both, or neither of the members of each couple had ever cheated. Their judgments were shockingly accurate.

Research team leader Nathaniel Lambert said of the study:

"I was personally amazed about what could be surmised about people after watching them on a video for just a few minutes," said Lambert. "First, I couldn't believe how consistent the observers were with each other at independently rating who they thought were cheating on their romantic partner. Second, I was surprised by how often they were right on the mark."

Lambert says it makes sense the ability to sense these things could come from basic evolution, since the ramifications of cheating can vary from financial to physical to emotional, so chances are, you don't need to be a genius to know if he's cheating on you. Just trust your gut, or your friend's gut. According to this study, they're probably right.

Via Cosmopolitan

5 Craziest Places That Africans Have Séx ...

1.The bush, maize farm or coffee plantation
This specifically applies to people who live in ‘ocha’. Not all, but only a specific sample, especially the mean perverts who can’t get a room and the teenage high school folk who can’t control their surges of adolescence. People will persevere the pain of thorns, the toughness of stones and the itchy feeling that maize leaves give in order to enjoy the glory of séx.

These areas offer the much needed privacy but it’s surprising how people are willing to go through all the discomfort and brave the dangers of viscous animal attacks just for some few minutes of pleasure.

2.Washrooms.
The number of people who have been caught eating each other up by janitors or bouncers in clubs is as high as my followers on Twitter. As a result, these unlucky ‘thirsties’ have had to engage in endless negotiations or offer bribes. Some bouncers won’t even take bribes, despite the fact that they need extra tight t-shirts.

Once they catch you in the act, they see that as a golden opportunity to impress the boss. I know of a guy who was caught and imprisoned in the club washrooms by a bouncer until when the manager came. By the time he was allowed to go, it was 6 pm the next day.

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3.The car
Be it a taxi or just a private car in a parking lot, Kenyans have felt no shame doing it in automobiles. It doesn’t matter whether it’s in the squeezed space of a Toyata Votz or the spacious arena of a Probox, so long as nyege calls, things are going down. Some cars have even become worn out quickly not because they travel long distances but because of the wear and tear caused by frequent lungula.

4.The park
We all remember the infamopus Muliro Gardens story. Uhuru Park is also a popular ground for fornication. The pleasurable sin happens in hundreds of other parks all over the country. Do these people even enjoy it? One thing I know is that they constantly have to look over their shoulders because a mortal can pass by any minute. Why go through all the trouble?

5.The pool
Then there are those humans who find it adventurous to engage in cōituss inside a public pool. I have been a witness to this every time and despite not wanting to snitch, I have always wished that an imaginary shark would emerge and bite off the privates of such Kenyans.

There’s no problem having lungula in the pool if it’s just the two of you, but I have no respect for people who unleash their tools.

By Phillip Etemesi

The Best S3x Positions For G' Sp0t Org@sms !!(a must watch video for every man)

Every man's desire is to give his woman a night she will hardly forget.Below is a video that will make that dream come true....

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S3x Talk Realness: C!rcumcised P3nises vs. Unc!rcumcised P3nises?????

To cut, or not to cut? Although c!rcumcision rates are declining in America, for3skin is still a hotly debated issue. Cosmopolitan.com spoke to three American women and two American men on the merits and pitfalls of s3x with c!rcumcised versus unc!rcumcised p3nises.

How old are you?
Woman A: Twenty-seven.
Woman B: Thirty-four.
Woman C: Twenty-nine.
Man A: Twenty-two.
Man B: Thirty-one.

Have you ever slept with a guy who has an unc!rcumcised p3nis?
Woman A: Yes. Three, actually. And dated two of them for a few months.
Woman B: Yes.
Woman C: Yes.
Man A: Once, yes. It was a surprise.
Man B: No.

Have you ever slept with a guy who has a c!rcumcised p3nis?
Woman A: Yes, the majority do.
Woman B: Yes.
Woman C: Yes.
Man A: Yes.
Man B: No.

Do you have a preference between the two?
Woman A: For sheer aesthetic purposes, c!rcumcised. It is not a deal-breaker at all if they're not, because it doesn't feel different, but it is definitely more aesthetically pleasing to have them be c!rcumcised. It's also something my girlfriends and I talk about, and there is always a negative stigma associated with non-c!rcumcised guys. The weird thing is, it's very comparable to the female v@gina, but yet I have never heard of that comparison.
Woman B: I do not have a preference when it comes to regular intercourse but I prefer c!rcumcised when performing oral s3x.
Woman C: I much, much prefer an intact [unc!rcumcised] man! s3x feels better. The natural p3nis isn't dried out looking like c!rcumcised p3nises and the for3skin is useful! Did I mention it feels really, really good?
Man A: I wouldn't say I have a preference. It really is a nonissue for me as long as it works.

Do you find there is a difference in sensation during intercourse?
Woman A: Honestly, I think that if a guy is unc!rcumcised, it feels better because there is more friction, as weird as that sounds.
Woman B: I feel like there is a little something extra when a man is not c!rcumcised. It's almost like being "ribbed for her pleasure." I don't think it necessarily makes it better than a c!rcumcised man, but it is a little different. I also think the after-s3x rituals are different. Usually, when a guy is not c!rcumcised, he has to get up and clean off sooner.
Woman C: Yes! I have a decent sample size of both intact and c!rcumcised men, and while I have had c!rcumcised men be able to get me off from v@ginal intercourse alone, it's only been after plenty of getting to know each other s3xually. The unc!rcumcised men have been the only ones who I orgasm from v@ginal intercourse alone easily, even during casual encounters. The gliding sensation from the for3skin just does it for me.
Man A: I never noticed any difference.

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Is there a difference in taste during o'ral s3x?
Woman A: Taste, I would say no, but they have to have good hygiene. I think being unc!rcumcised leaves much more room for smells and tastes to become apparent, because they have to clean deeper than most guys do. I feel like I am pretty adamant about a pre-o'ral shower, just to be safe.
Woman B: Yes! There is a huge difference in taste. I usually will not give oral s3x to a guy who is unc!rcumcised. Sometimes there is a weird smell and a weird taste.
Woman C: Not that I've noticed. Bodies have scents, c!rcumcised or not, and it's not hard to get a guy to rub his dick in the shower.
Man A: I also never noticed a distinct difference with this. If there is a strong taste for anything, I'm hoping it would just be soap.

What about during other s3xual acts?
Woman A: I think that it can be weird for girls to experience a flaccid unc!rcumcised p3nis, because it looks like a rocket ship and we don't grow up seeing images of unc!rcumcised p3nises in pop culture. It's kind of like, "What do I do with this?"
Woman B: I think it is more fun to give a guy a hand job if he is unc!rcumcised because you can use the skin to please him more by applying different amounts of pressure when moving up and down.
Woman C: Ha'nd jobs are much easier and more enjoyable to give when a guy has his for3skin. I don't have to keep spitting on my hand to keep things lubricated and blow jobs are more fun when I have for3skin to play with too.
Man A: Giving a ha'nd job to a man with an unc!rcumcised p3nis is different, but definitely not a negative experience. As a c!rcumcised man, there is just a different "look" to what is happening.

Does it matter to you if a guy you're sleeping with is c!rcumcised or not? Why/why not?
Woman A: I've debated this in my head before and at 21 years old, I would have said, "Yes, it's too weird, non-hygienic, ugly, and I don't like it." But now, at 27 and having really liked the guys I've been with who have not been c!rcumcised, my answer is no, because it's not something they had any control over as a child, and it's really not bad once you get used to it and know how to work with it.
Woman B: It doesn't matter to me. I have enjoyed s3x with both types. As long as the s3x is great, I do not care. The only time I have a preference is if I want to perform oral s3x.
Woman C: I wouldn't not sleep with a guy strictly because he is c!rcumcised since he likely didn't get a say in the matter, but I really, really, really prefer unc!rcumcised men. I mean, why would I prefer a man missing a significant part of his p3nis?
Man A: No, not at all. I'm not going to complain too much about size or shape as long as things work in a way that pleases us both.

Guys, are you c!rcumcised?
Man A: Yes.
Man B: Yes.

Do you ever wish you were/weren't? And has that opinion changed over the years?
Man A: I have never thought too much about the possibility. I feel like most guys are c!rcumcised so I guess I just feel like I was "normal."
Man B: I wish I wasn't — mostly because I've learned that unc!rcumcised men experience more pleasure. It took me until my mid-20s to learn about this, and I felt cheated out of a natural and beautiful part of my body by a decision that was never given to me.

Do you talk about it with your partners?
Man A: No, it's never been a question posed to me or from me.
Man B: Nope, there's never been any reason to.
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Have you ever experienced any judgment from s3xual partners for being c!rcumcised/unc!rcumcised? What happened?
Man A: Not at all.
Man B: Never any judgment. I honestly didn't think about it much until my mid-20s and because I can't change it, what's the point of talking about it?

What are the pros and cons, in your experience, of being c!rcumcised/unc!rcumcised?
Man A: I would say the benefit of being c!rcumcised is that it's not a surprise. I assume the guys that I will be sleeping with are, and I'm thinking that they probably assume the same thing of me. But I don't want that to seem like I'm insulting unc!rcumcised guys. I'm a pretty laid-back guy. Whatever you have in your pants is probably a nonissue.
Man B: Pros: I think it looks better to be c!rcumcised. Cons: s3x is less pleasurable, for both men and women, and the organ itself is more sensitive than it ought to be. I remember reading somewhere that there are about 12 square inches of skin removed in circumcision. Also, there is probably buried body trauma of the event itself that still affects me in s3x although I don't consciously remember it.

If you had a son, would you get him c!rcumcised?
Woman A: Definitely. For all the things I mentioned above, there are far more negative circumstances he would encounter than positive in having an unc!rcumcised p3nis. Unless I heard some very good reasons why having an unc!rcumcised p3nis was necessary, I don't think there is a reason not to just snip it at birth.
Woman B: I think I would have him c!rcumcised for sanitary reasons. I just feel like it is more hygienic for a baby to be c!rcumcised. I mean, the poor little things sit in diapers all day for, like, a year.
Woman C: Absolutely not! Nature knows best. The for3skin is there for a reason and all the justifications people use to defend circumcision are B.S. Women have plenty of nooks and crannies we manage to keep clean without having bits cut off. We get UTIs sometimes, and antibiotics, not c!rcumcision, are the answer. C0'ndoms prevent STIs and you get to keep your whole p3nis. If my son really wanted to get c!rcumcised later in life, fine. That's his decision to make about his own body. I'm not about to deprive him a normally functioning p3nis. It's unethical and barbaric!
Man A: I haven't ever thought of this, but I probably would. As a c!rcumcised guy with a c!rcumcised boyfriend, it's something that we would both probably just agree to. I would think that doctors would recommend it, so it would happen shortly after birth. Thinking as a gay couple: If we were to adopt a son that were older than a newborn, I don't think we would circumcise the child.
Man B: No; I feel that should be his decision. (I know, what mature man in his right mind would decide to get part of his p3nis cut off, right?)

8 Ways to Get What You Want in Bed.........

1. Handle yourself the way you want him to. He's not picking up on your cues? Just start touching yourself the way you'd like him to touch you. He'll get the idea, hopefully.

2. Touch him the way you want to be touched. It's like the golden rule of s3x. Pull his hair so he knows you want him to pull yours, and so on.

3. Tell him what you don't like. There is a way to do this casually! Simply say something like, "I don't like that, but I do like this" and move his hand there. Ideally, he wants to do a good job anyway, so he'll appreciate it.

4. Act like he's never done this before. Yes, ideally he would know exactly what you want and what to do immediately, but that's usually not the case. There's nothing wrong with guiding him like he's never done this because he doesn't know what works with you yet, so it's still foreign territory.

5. Give plenty of encouragement, but only when what he's doing is working! If you are moaning at every single thing he does and every single thing he does isn't working for you, he thinks he's killing it when he's totally not. So save your "Oh yeah!" comments for when it's actually working for you. Because then he'll take note of that and hopefully do less of what wasn't working.

6. Make it sound like you just thought of an idea. "You know what would be really hot? If you went down on me while you played with my nipples." Like that had never before occurred to you and only now are you seeing its possible merits!

7. Straight-up tell him in detail what you want him to do. "OK, do you have a pen? If not, that's OK because I have provided a handout. Starting on page one ..."

8. Never fake it. If you don't tell him he's not the greatest at this, he'll leave the situation thinking he is great at this, and then future women will wonder why the hell this guy thinks he's so good at this. Help him through it for the good of everyone.

6 Good signs You’re in a Rebound Relationship......

Are you dating again after a recent break up? You are positive about the relationship but find yourself getting confused whether you are actually in a rebound relationship. It is always good to tell your significant other that you are in a rebound relationship and that you are not ready to commit yourself in a serious relationship. Below are rebound relationship signs to watch out for.

1.  You couldn’t take the loneliness any longer- you have just been dumped by your ex, or experienced a bad relationship. After the break up you are automatically attracted to anyone who gives you attention. You are afraid of experiencing the feeling of loneliness and therefore can’t help but fall in love almost immediately.
2.  The ‘ex’ topic comes up all the time- you are always talking to your rebound partner about your ex which shows just how little in love you are with them. If you are truly in love with your partner, you would know that bringing up your ex in your conversations will only hurt them.
3.  Fantasies- you spend a long time imagining scenarios of you and your ex getting back together. If it makes you happy then you are in a rebound relationship.
4.  You flirt with other people of the opposite s3x- you want to feel that you are still hot and can get attention from people of the opposite s3x even though you are in a new relationship already.
5.  You are not looking for new ways to keep the relationship alive- you’re just going with the flow. You and your new date are happy. All you want is for your emotional needs to be satisfied and nothing more.

6. You experience intense emotions when you see your ex- all you want is to feel that you are in a better place or rather you do not need him/her by staying in the new relationship

4 Reasons Why You Should Always Have Sex On A First Date......

1. Sex Compatibility.

From a girl who has slept with countless amounts of men, and a few ladies – I know from doing my research that it’s difficult to find a good lay nowadays. We are all into different things in bed, and if he has a really f*cked up fetish like symorophilia, mucophilia or plushophilia – trust me, you want to find this out straight away and get the f*ck out of there. And if you didn’t really have a good time on your date, but you find him really ridiculously hot, the sex might be amazing and boom: you’ve found yourself a new f*ck-buddy!

2. To Know Pen*s Size.

I don’t know about you, but when I’m interested in a man, my mind usually goes towards the issue of size: the size of his wallet and also the size of his penis. Sure, every guy probably thinks that he’s huge, but ladies – we know that the majority of men are average at best. So, before you invest any of your valuable spare time in this man, it’s advantageous for you to meet his penis – and the sooner, the better.

3. Reduces Anxiety.

When there is so much sexual tension between the two of you, it tends to make things awkward. While courtship and dating are fun, a lot of the time dating is a bit of a drag. After all, isn’t all that dating just leading to the big finale of a climax? Having sex on the first date greatly reduces the anxiety that you both are experiencing and also eliminates all the trivial concerns that go with dating.

4. Time Investment

We are all busy and time-poor in today’s hectic world. Dating is a huge endeavor that not only sucks up your free time, but sometimes it could end up costing you money; money that you can be spending on those new shoes, liposuction or Botox.

Sex, on the other hand, is a good gauge of whether all this effort is worth it, so why go through countless dates only to find out that hey – maybe you don’t want his penis in you? Alternatively, if you bang him right away, you can make an informed decision about whether you want to invest anymore of your valuable time and money into this man.

Thoughts you should never share with your man!

Communication between you and your partner shouldn’t be strained, you should be open, say what you feel so you both can be on the same page.

But some things should never be said, that is because these things can affect your relationship in negative ways and eventually break it. Here are some of those things you should never utter to your man or woman.

1.You and your ex; Whatever worked with your ex or didn’t work with your ex shouldn’t be said to your present partner. Leave the past in the past, because really what happens when you do these things is that your partner becomes really angry and jealous and this is not healthy.

2.The S3x; Of course, you can discuss what you want In the bedroom and what you aren’t comfortable with. But don’t tell your man, “your something is too small” or your woman, “You just sleep there like a log of wood”. Find a sensitive and nice way to convey whatever it is you are feeling.

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3.You’re fat; No, No and No. this doesn’t work in anyway. Women especially don’t exactly feel comfortable hearing this from their men, it takes away their self confidence and replaces it with insecurity and hurt.

4.I need to spend time away from you; there is never a nice way to say this, you might think since you aren’t asking for space in the real sense, but have you considered how much it might hurt to hear your partner whom you love so much and love spending time with, tell you your presence is beginning to bore them?