10 reasons why lovers date their ex

1. Nostalgia

If you want to return to the good ol’ days, wear some jellies and listen to a mixed tape. Don’t use nostalgia as a reason to run back into the arms of your banished boo. Though you never believe it when you’re suffering, there will be others. Lots of others.

2. They’re Good in Bed

Sure, you had some good times with your former lover. But remember: your ex had time to get familiar with your body and kinks. You two might not have had earthquakin’ romps in the beginning, but you’ll probably only (conveniently) recollect the nights of burning passion that came later. Someone else can get you there—but these things don’t always happen overnight.

3. You’ve Changed

Maybe you were in a bad place when you dated. Perhaps you destroyed everything and realize that you missed out on something awesome. If you’re aware of your errors and want to give it another go, it’s worth a shot. Just know: your ex might not be so forgiving.

4. They’ve Changed

Allow me to contradict my previous statement-people (usually) don’t change. It is possible though. For example, did you date an alcoholic whose addiction tore your relationship apart? If your ex has made a conscious effort to fix the problem (therapy, AA, etc.), a second chance is worth consideration. Key word here is “consideration,” however. Don’t enter this situation blindly.

5. Your Family Wants It

It’s a tale as old as time: your family can’t stand your current squeeze and begs you to reconsider your ex. Your family may know best, but inquire why they clamor for your former love. Maybe they saw something that a detached diva like yourself missed. Or, more likely, it could be that they’re nosey and bossy. It’s worth a conversation, but don’t let their opinions be the do all, end all.

6. You Had Amazing Chemistry

While it’s easy to forget this, chemistry does not equate with compatibility. Being able to stare longingly into each other’s eyes doesn’t mean you have what it takes to last as a couple. An explosive, magnetic chemistry with another person is often just fickle hormones talking.

7. You Don’t Think Anyone Else will Love You

This is a dreadful feeling. I wish I could say something wise to evaporate the gut-wrenching insecurity we all experience at some point or another, but I’ve got nothing. So I’ll just say this: don’t run back to your ex if you’re doing it to feel better about yourself. This is the sign of an unhealthy relationship. It may take awkward first dates, an OkCupid account, a matchmaker and a fortune teller, but it is totally possible to find another love. Promise.

8. You’re Bored

No. No. No. No. NO! Just no. This is evil. Don’t toy with another’s emotions because you can’t get laid. Don’t delve back into the valley of the past just for cheap kicks.

9. You Just ‘Have a Feeling’

This one is tricky. Usually, this feeling stems from chemistry, nostalgia or boredom, but we’re too wasted on a crazy cocktail of hormones to identify the source. Talk to your friends and try to figure out why you’re really craving this person. Is it a legitimate reason? Side note: movies don’t portray love accurately and are not a good measure for relationship accuracy. So do not base your feeling on a wine-fueled evening watching The Notebook.

10. It’s Convenient

You have the same friends. You like the same music. Geez, we might as well just fall back into the same pattern! Hold up—no. Don’t do it. Maybe this is a sign that you two were meant to be just friends in the first place. Because guess what, those things that irritated you back then aren’t going away. Bottom line: you’re not doing anyone any favors by re-enlisting in a love war.

Guys Only: 10 Types Of Women You Should Never Date

This is exclusively for the guys.Have you ever wondered why the women you date always turn out to be annoying or weird in some way? Have you ever thought that perhaps you have been choosing the wrong type of women? Below is a list of ten different types of women you should avoid, according to an article I just came across. Read carefully and see if you can learn one or two things.

See the List below;

1. The Chatterbox–This is the woman who never shuts up, barely stopping to breathe. Seemingly only concerned about what is going on in her life, she always has to make a comment about everything and dominates conversations.

 

2. The Desperate babe-This type of woman will seem fantastic at first, until she starts talking about your wedding location, how many kids she wants and the name of your future dog–right after the first date! When a woman advances WAY faster than normal, watch out. She NEEDS a man so bad that she’s willing to put anybody in that slot, even the homeless guy on the corner.

 

 

 

3. The Overly-Critical Woman

Anything you do for this type of woman is simply not good enough. Nothing seems to work unless it is done according to her standards. Anything that is said by anyone will be quickly taken out of context to become some sort of insult or some reason to wage war against the world. This type of woman has plenty of emotional baggage and will make you an angry and bitter person as there will be nothing but misery with her.

 

4. The Bimbo

This type of woman can’t obtain a GED but has managed to secure a PhD in the science of the bedroom. This is an intellectually challenged woman who looks great but, in all honesty, shouldn’t open her mouth. Her skills are unquestionably only rooted in the physical realm and unless you’re just after one-night stands, you do not want to bring a stupid girl home to meet Mom and Dad. The majority of girls you see on the streets everyday fall into this category,

 

5. The High Maintenance Chick

If this type of woman breaks a nail, she expects you to drop everything you’re doing to drive her to the salon immediately. Her daddy always told her she was a princess and she expects to be treated like one at all times. She has expensive taste and expects you to shower her with only the best things and take her out to posh places on a regular basis. If you don’t have a lot of money and a penchant for luxury, don’t even bother.

 

 

   

6. The Clingy Girl

This woman is a nuisance who can’t go anywhere or do anything without the company of her man. She’ll adopt your interests, calls 20 times a day and fly off the handle anytime she’s not around to monitor your behavior. This type of woman will smother any chance of you missing her by insisting that you spend every waking moment with her, refusing to let you go out with the boys or spend any significant amount of time with anyone else.

 

7. The Baby’s Mama

This woman has a great physique, great personality and her toes are pretty too! There’s only one problem–she’s got a pretty large amount of children with assorted “baby-daddy’s”, and when women like this get desperate, any and every guy has the potential to be “daddy.” This woman got knocked up by somebody that she was supposedly in love with, and not only is she a bad judge of character, she’s GROSSLY irresponsible. The same guys that are “jerks” now are the same guys she once thought the world of and had unprotected sex with.

 

8. The Gold Digger

The Gold-Digger will compliment you on your expensive watch, ask you what kind of car you drive, what you do for a living, where you live and so on. Like the high maintenance woman, the Gold Digger is basically looking for a sugar daddy, she’ll size you up within the first five minutes and drop you just as quickly if your cash flow runs out and you can’t take her shopping anymore. These types of women will just suck your wallet dry and leave you emasculated. Fortunately,you can usually see this type coming from a mile away. She wants to write out the names of all her designer items and post it on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.

 

9. The Club Girl

Club girls are nothing more than fantasy women who have been practically living in bars and clubs since they hit the legal drinking age. They have beautiful faces with full lips, big doe eyes, great legs, and all the curves you could ever ask for. The problem in dating these women is that they love to wear clothes that show off their great assets not just to you, but to every Tom, man-hood and Harry on the street. A woman like this may be carefree and wild; however, once you take a closer look, you’ll realize that her entire life is a party and most nights will end with her puking in your car. Or waking up hungover, in some guy’s bed in the morning.

 

10. The Feminist

This type of woman can never be pleased by a man and she believes that men are the cause of all the pains and suffering of society. It is her strong belief that women are much more intelligent than men and are capable of doing things “the right way”. You don’t want to waste any time with this type of woman because anything that you do will always be negative to her.

How can i get myself a husband now that I’m 33?

Guys I need your help seriously..

Sorry i can’t reveal my name right now so i have to go straight to the point..

I have lived a very unholy life as a runs girl at my early 20s till now but unfortunately for me i never knew am destroying my own future, my mates and friends has been married for like 6-7 years now but no man has ever knocked on my parents door to ask my hand in marriage. Lately i thought maybe somebody is trying to tire me down but i found out that my evil deeds in the past have caught up with me, my advice for the young ladies out there who flirts around with people’s husband in the name of “Shuga Daddy” is stay away because God is watching you..

Please guys help me out, am a changed person now and its for good, i want to settle down and have my own happy family. I don’t want to be a home wrecker anymore… My problem now is to get a husband of my own and stay happy, how can i achieve that?

Help! I Caught My Wife Cheating On Me With A Vib'rator On Our Matrimonial Bed

I have a very serious problem which has started affecting me psychologically and even my performance at my job.
I have tried to work things out with my wife but it has not yielded any positive result as I am not convinced about the situation. I feel too ashamed to discuss the problem with my pastor and even worse with my mother because I know that will only escalate things. Trust me, I know my mother and mothers generally. As for my friends, I am afraid they might turn around to use it against us and make me the butt of their jokes

My problem started last December, over the festive period to be precise. I caught my wife on our matrimonial bed having se'x with a vib'rator. I almost collapsed because I was shocked beyond what words can describe. I found myself shaking from head to toe, unable to even say anything. I felt so disgusted and sick that I had to rush to the bathroom to splash water over my face to avoid vomiting.

She must have been so engrossed in what she was doing that she did not even know when I entered our apartment and walked into the room to find her in that position. It was my movement that brought her back to reality. What I found most disturbing at that moment was why she could not wait for me if she was so in need of sex, since I’d called her earlier on that I was on my way home. And though she got up immediately and started pleading with me that it was the devil, I did not bring myself to talk to her until very early in the morning of the next day.

She told me a friend in her office had given it to her to try out and it was her first time of using it. And that she would have told me about it but wanted to try it out first. She mentioned somebody’s name which she said I have never met and pleaded that she would return it and never use it again. She managed to convince me that it was an innocent one-off-thing which I did not need to bother myself about and I accepted.

But it was difficult for me to forget as I kept seeing the picture of her in that position in my head and wondering if it was right for a married, Christian woman to be doing such a thing. To me, it is something made by the Satan for his children.

Later that week, she told me she had returned it and things went back to normal between us but I was surprised to find the instrument again in her underwear drawer by accident. She was not at home, so I took it out and laid it on her side of the bed. As soon as she saw it, she went on her knees again and began to beg me.

She said she did not know how to return the thing since it was a gift and would not want to upset her colleague at the office, nor embarrass herself. She insisted she was not using it and was also scouting for whom she too can give it to.
Since I did not catch her using it, I had no choice but to let it go. However, I was not comfortable and began suspecting her. I later hatched a plan to catch her and before long, it worked. What I saw that evening was worse than the previous one and still haunts me till today.

I’d never seen my wife look that way before even when we are doing it. I was transfixed that I had to hide quietly behind the door way to allow her finish before I opened the door. Immediately my wife went on her knees, begging that it was the devil again.

I refused to talk to her and walked out of the apartment. I just walked round and round the neighbourhood because I felt lost and didn’t know where to go or who to talk to. I felt thoroughly betrayed. I had never looked at another woman in my life, before and even after I met her. I’d never looked at porn magazines or movie, not to talk of having a girlfriend, and worse still, owning a sex toy.

I could only manage to keep my anger for two days as she kept crying and asking for forgiveness, promising never to use it again. I could not bear to see her that way too, so, I insisted she had to tell me the truth.
She then told me that since the matter was no longer a secret, it was better she confessed everything to me. She said the vibrator was hers and she had been using it even before she became a born again Christian, as she was introduced to it while in Secondary school. (A girls only school) I don’t understand the logic, but she said it was a way to show that they did not need male company?

Were they Les'bians?
She insisted they were not. When she became “born again” in the university, she stopped, she said. This was where we met and started first as friends, then I got the message that she was my wife and we eventually got married two years after our service year. She said she was forced to go and buy another vibrator after a discussion with some ladies in her office about how much they enjoyed their sex life and she missed the fun she used to have. She also told me that she does not get satisfaction from what we do together but did not want to hurt my feelings by telling me and begged me to allow her to continue using the thing and that it will not affect what we have together, after all, I never would have guessed it, if I had not caught her using it.
My problem now is that, though I have not caught her again in almost two months, I am still not happy because I know she is doing it and its disgusting to me. Though she says it will not affect us, it is already affecting me because anytime I want to have sex with her, that picture comes to my mind and spoils my mood. I will have to just force myself because I have nowhere else to relieve myself.

My work schedule is very tight as I work in the bank and have to leave home very early in the morning and most times, don’t return home until around 10pm or even later. I am also taking some professional courses, so, that also takes away most of my weekends. But my wife is a teacher, so she has more than enough time on her hands to do all she wants before I return.
Before you ask what I have done to make our love life better, I have tried to do everything she tells me, and though she says she is now enjoying it, I am not convinced. I do not see that look on her face. And it is making me feel inadequate as a husband. We have been married for three years and we are yet to conceive a child and I sometimes wonder if this is her priority. I know what I am facing with my mother and family on that issue alone, not to now add this one to it.
Have I not bitten more than I can chew with this girl? My wife is unfaithful to me and I am powerless to do anything about it. Please, help me.

Source: Vanguard News

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I am Embarrassed during During Siex...please help

What do you think about when you’re having s3x?Sometimes, I think about everything but the s3x because no matter what I'm doing, my mind is always multi-tasking. I'm making to-do lists in my head, whether I’m sitting at a traffic light waiting for it to change, in the shower washing my hair, or trying to fall asleep while listening to my husband snore.So why should it be any different when I’m having s3x? I know that it’s a horrible way to be and I’ve worked at getting better at being focused when I’m getting intimate with my husband. But it’s not easy.Here’s my most recent train of thought while my husband and I were attempting to simultaneously combust:This going to be good. I just know it.Wait, I forgot to take my kid’s jeans out of the dryer early. Now they’re going to be too short.It’s almost the end of the month. My credit card payment is due.Stop it, stop it, stop it. Not him. You. Focus. You're having s3x. Remember.Ooh, that feels good.Hey, he likes it when I do that.Damn, I forgot to shave my legs. Wonder if he cares. (Obviously not.)I really need to start exercising again. I’m feeling a little jiggly.Hmm, I like it when he does that.But did he leave the grill on again?Mind, stop wandering.This is better. Nothing in my head but my mother? What? Go away. Please. I meant to say please.
I’ll stop there and spare you further details, but suffice it to say there is a point where I quit thinking about other things and focus on what’s going on right in front of me. Or under me, as the case may be. And nine times out of 10, I get a happy ending.But I wish it didn't take me so long to live in the intimate moment. I'll keep working on it because practicing is fun. And happily, my husband is a patient man.Do you sometimes find it hard to shut your mind off during s3x?

I Can't Say No To S3x With Men And This Has Been Destroying My Relationships..help

I need to share my story.
Since I was a teenager, I have not been able to say no to s3x with men. I have had a lot of s3xual partners and sometimes in my relationship, my boyfriends break up with me because of my addict.
I just can't stop. Anytime a guy that approach me for s3x, I get so excited and I end up spreading my légs for him without thinking about it. After the act, I begin to regret it.
I am 27-years-old now and my last boyfriend just broke up with me after I confessed to him that I have slept with 11 men during our 10-month relationship. I really loved him but he could not forgive me.
Now I'm afraid my lifestyle would prevent me from finding a husband and time is running out.
What do I do?

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Foods good for your romance life

Séxologists, cardiologists, and psychologists agree: how much you consume has a huge impact on your séxual health. Essentially, what is good for your heart is good for better séx.

1. Spinach and other green vegetables
Spinach is a potent source of magnesium, which helps dilate blood vessels, according to Japanese researchers. Better blood flow to the genitals, as you've learned, creates greater arousal for men and women.


2. Unsweetened tea
The antioxidant catechin found in tea promotes blood flow all over the body for séx power and brainpower; it enhances memory, mood, and focus. One particularly potent catechin, a compound called ECGC prevalent in green tea, is thought to increase fat burn.


3. Oranges
Men who consume at least 200 milligrams of vitamin C a day improve their sperm counts and motility, according to research at the University of Texas Medical Branch.


4. Eggs
Over easy, hard-boiled, or scrambled, eggs aren't the most sensual food on the menu, but it's hard to beat them for a fit and healthy body inside and out. Eggs are rich in vitamins B6 and B5, which help balance hormone levels and ease stress, and are important for a healthy libido.


5. Red wine
Sounds like the makings of a good time to us! Italian researchers recently found that the antioxidants and alcohol in the wine may trigger the production of nitric oxide in the blood, which helps artery walls to relax, increasing blood flow to the genitals. Just limit yourselves to a glass or two. More alcohol than that can put a damper on séxual performance and lead to bed spins of a not-very-séxy nature.


6.Meat
Red meat. Lean cuts are great sources of zinc, a mineral that curbs production of a hormone called prolactin, which at high levels can cause séxual dysfunction.

Zinc is also a key muscle-building nutrient, and the high concentrations of conjugated linoleic acids (CLA) in beef, studies show, may spur weight loss. Choose filet mignon or other deep red cuts with round or loin in the name, because they are the leanest.


7. Beans
While they may not be the best choice for a side dish if you plan on séx for dessert, building your meal plan around a foundation of beans and legumes will ultimately pay off for you séxually. Many studies show that bean eaters are leaner and healthier than people who don't eat beans.

Beans is rich in potassium which regulates blood pressure and heart contractions, something you'll need as your heart starts racing when he does that special move that makes you melt.


8. Fatty fish
Oily coldwater fish like salmon, mackerel, sardines, and tuna should figure heavily into your weekly meal rotation. The omega-3 fatty acids DHA and EPA found in fish help to raise dopamine levels in the brain that trigger arousal.


9. Oats
Eating oats is one of the few natural ways to boost testosterone in the bloodstream. The male hormone plays a significant role in séx drive and orgasm strength in both men and women. Oats (as well as seeds, ginseng, nuts, dairy, and green vegetables) contain L-arginine, an amino acid that enhances the effect nitric oxide has on reducing blood vessel stiffness.

L-arginine has been used to treat erectile dysfunction. Like Viagra, it helps relax muscles around blood vessels in the penis. When they dilate, blood flow increases so a man can maintain an erection.


10. Oysters and other shellfish
Raw oysters actually do have a connection to séxual function. Oysters hold more zinc than most any other food, and it is believed that this mineral may enhance libido by helping with testosterone production--higher levels of the hormone are linked to an increase in desire.

Zinc is also crucial to healthy sperm production and blood circulation. Other good sources of zinc are shrimp, red meat, pumpkin seeds, poultry and pork, eggs, and dairy products.


11. Dark chocolate
Dark chocolate contains a compound called phenyl ethylamine that releases the same endorphins triggered by séx, and increases the feelings of attraction between two people.

How to make a lady stick to you and want more s3x

1. Always be the solution to her problems.

2. If you send her to do shopping never ask for change.

3. Always prepare her for sex in the first 15 minutes and wait for two minutes as you continuously suck her breasts.

4. Don't be so much available, also give her freedom to do whatever she wants.

5. Never be too soft on her,women hate men who behave like women. You must look tough but not too harsh.

6. You should be ambitious in whichever field you are.

7. Make sure you made love in your perfect mood and always make her say,"ENOUGH".

8. Smell good, be smart but never be too smart and too much organized. Women are the home makers and they hate men who do everything for themselves.

9. Don't be too predictable, sometimes surprise her with gifts

10. Ensure you love her family and support her.

11. Don't always complain wherever you see a problem, complain when necessary.

12. Be faithful to her.

13. Acknowledge her dressing and figure, make her feel she is beautiful and trendy.

14. Be at your home in time even if you are a serial drunkard.

Top bedroom moves that men love: try these positions tonight.

Want to spice things up in the bedroom? Make his night and drive him crazy with these sex positions that men love. Ultimately, sex is about love and intimacy, so while the positions are part of the fun, the real payoff is the way various maneuvers allow you to connect and explore each other in different ways.

1. Woman on Top: Ask your guy what drives him crazy in the bedroom, and we're betting he'll say it's pleasing you. This sexy position puts you in the driver's seat, and that's exactly where he wants you. Take advantage of being in control and set the pace according to what you like, leaving his hands free to roam. The bonus? He loves having your curves in full view…so flip on the lights and give him a show.

2. Missionary: This standard go-to is a favorite because it puts him in control, while still being intimate: your hips are free to do all the work, and you can lock lips and eyes with ease. And while he's in the power position on top of you, the two of you can set the pace together. If you want him to go slower or deeper, put your hands on his hips and guide him. The best sex is like a conversation, and missionary allows you to communicate with your bodies.

3. Reverse Cowgirl: This reverse variation of the woman on top position is the best of both worlds for your guy. It gives him the sexy view he gets during doggie style but it puts you in control. This position doesn't allow for a ton of touching or eye contact, but it's a nice contrast to some of the more classic, romantic positions. If you're craving a connection flash a look back at him while you're doing your thing—it'll drive both of you over the edge.

4. Doggie Style: This rear entry positions puts him in control, allowing him to call the shots and to go at the speed that's best for him. Plus, it allows for deeper penetration, making him feel like king in the bedroom. Some women love the intense full feeling, but if it feels like too much, let him know. Communication is key to enjoying sex and experiencing the full psychological benefits of physical intimacy.

5. Standing Up: Getting it on while standing up is probably not your go-to move, but it's perfect for that sweaty, gotta-have-you-now sex that'll make him feel irresistible. Whether he's bending you over the new kitchen table or you're steadying yourself against the wall, this spontaneous position is perfect for a quickie.

6. Spooning: Sex while spooning is the ultimate intimate position, and a go-to for when you're feeling lazy and affectionate. Not only does it give him total access to your bod, it also frees your digits up so that you can give yourself a hand, a move that's sure to drive him wild. Make it even hotter by twisting your body and head slightly towards him so you can smooch while his hands roam. Afterward you can slip into an easy, snuggley sleep.

7. The Lap Dance: Pull up a chair and have him take a seat while you get on top. He'll love the look and feel of you straddling him, and having you in control will help him last longer, too. A bonus? Unlike the standard woman-on-top position, this ones allows for you to stay super close, kiss, and make eye contact. Plus, he still gets to be aggressive with his hands, tugging on your hair, rubbing your back, and pulling you closer.

What a woman wants in bed

Agreed, we all want different things in our séxual lives, but research has revealed one common thing women truly want.

And that is Emotional Intimácy.

During a survey of over 1,000 women, each woman was asked about their best séx. 96 percent of the women revealed that the best séx they have ever had was with someone with whom they are emotionally connected.

Other reasons women (and even sometimes men) gave for enjoying séx include "being with someone I love," followed by "feeling good about my séxual abilities" and "when my partner compliments me."

So what are the top three things women crave? The survey reveals that the top three requirements for great séx are physical attraction, emotional intimácy and feeling secure and loved.

This also laid credence to the survey conducted by Duréx which revealed that 87 percent of women said the hottest séx they'd ever had was with someone they knew and trusted, and 95 percent of men said séx is more fulfilling with an emotional connection.

So it seems the best way to get into a woman's panties is through her heart.

Proven ways of having Your Lady make Love With You

You've been dating your girlfriend for a while and are ready to made love. You're pretty sure that she's ready, but you want to know how to make her want you without pressuring her or coming on too strong. If you want to make your girlfriend want to made love with you, you have to first make sure she's ready. Then, you can build her trust, treat her well, and turn her on to get her in the mood and mindset for having sex with you. If you want to know how to make your girlfriend want to made love with you, just follow these steps.

Be Dependable

If you want to make your girlfriend want to made love with you, then you should show her what an amazingly dependable guy you are. If your girl is going to trust you enough to made love with you, whether it's her first time or if she's had sex before, then she has to feel like she can depend on you. One of her fears may be that as soon as you made love, she won't be able to rely on you anymore because you would have gotten what you wanted. So, prove her wrong by being an upstanding and dependable guy.
Show up when you say you're going to show up. If you routinely pick her up half an hour late for your dates, she'll think that you don't think she's so special, and she'll be less likely to made love with you.
Don't be a flake. If you say you're going to take her to the beach over the weekend, do it. If you don't stick to your word, she won't be able to trust you.

1   Be her rock. Let her talk to you about her problems and insecurities while knowing that you can make her feel better.
Don't go hours or even a day or two without returning her phone calls or texts. This will make her feel like she can't depend on you.

2   Give it time. Some guys can be ready to made love with a girl in the time it takes to down a beer, while some girls can take months, or even longer, to decide that they're ready to make love. And some girls -- sorry, gentlemen -- are really adamant about holding out for the one, and don't even want to made love before marriage. So, don't rush into it -- wait for the girl to trust you first.
If your girl is barely comfortable with kissing, then you shouldn't bring up the "s-word" for a while.
However, if you and your girlfriend are already comfortable hooking up in bed all the time after just a few weeks, then you can start thinking about taking it to the next level.
If you want to make your girlfriend want to made love with you, the worst thing you can do is bring it up or try to force it when it's way too early. This will turn your girlfriend off and will make her much less likely to sleep with you.

3   Don't act like you're obsessed with sex. Let's face it -- if you're a male of a certain age who is desperate for his girlfriend to made love with him, then you probably are obsessed with sex. But that doesn't mean you have to make jokes, innuendos, or even blatant references to sex all the time. The last thing you want your girlfriend to think is that you're a horn dog who is so obsessed with sex that you don't care which lady comes into your bed. You should make her feel special, like you want only her.
You don't have to hide the fact that you're a man with needs, but you should avoid being vulgar, talking about sex all the time, or talking about other people who made love all the time.
Don't make derogatory comments about other women. This will make your girlfriend feel like a piece of meat. Remember that you're not with your bros, but with your special lady.

4   Be loyal. If you want to make your girlfriend trust you, then you have to be loyal to her. She'll never made love with you if she thinks you're talking to or checking out other women, or even hanging out with other women. Though you don't have to be rude to or ignore other women, you should have a laser-sharp focus on your girlfriend so she knows that you will always be there for her, especially after you start having sex.
Spend lots of time with her. Make sure that you plan at least one or two dates every week, and that you check in with her at least once a day if you're not together.
There's a difference between being loyal and being possessive and smothering your girlfriend with affection. You should make a point of seeing her when you both want to hang out, but don't try to see her 24/7 or she'll begin to pull back.
You should not only show your girl that you're loyal by being loyal to her, but by showing that you're a loyal sibling, friend, and teammate. Show loyalty in many aspects of your life and your girl will be impressed.



Treat Her Well

1   Treat her like a lady. If you want your girlfriend to made love with you, then you should treat her like a lady, not just like someone you want to hook up with. To do this, you have to be a gentleman and be courteous, kind, understanding, and generally admirable. Open doors for her, give her your coat when she's cold, pull out chairs for her, and help her carry her heavy bags.
Make sure to compliment her to let her know how great she looks or how special she is.
It's important to be a gentleman, but don't do anything that feels too unnatural to you, or she'll be able to tell that you're not being yourself.

2   Clean your home. This may sound silly, but if you want your girlfriend to really feel special, then you shouldn't invite her to hang out at your place if it looks like the set for World War Z. You need to make sure to remove any dirty laundry off your floor, clean your counters, and make your bed look and smell as clean and inviting as possible.
Not only will this make your lady feel special, but it'll make her feel more inclined to made love with you. She won't want to get it on if your bed is covered in candy wrappers and dirty underwear.
If you drive her around a lot, you should also keep a clean car. Give your lady the respect she deserves by making sure she has a clean seat.

3   Show an interest in all of her -- not just her body. Your girl's biggest fear may be that you don't care at all about her mind because you're too busy obsessing over her body. So, you have to prove her wrong. Show her that you are about who she is as a person, about her hopes and dreams, and about what makes her tick.
Ask her about her friendships, her childhood, and her favorite experiences.
Show her that you value her opinion. Ask her what she thinks about the current political situation in your state, or about the state of your new outfit.
Make eye contact when you talk to her. Show her that everything she says is important to you.

4   Take her out on romantic dates. If you want to build the sexual tension, you have to build the romance first. Make her feel special by taking her out, dressing up, and picking a romantic spot for dinner, a drink, or even just for stargazing. You don't have to do anything corny or out of your element to make her feel special.
Though you and your lady can have fun at baseball games, birthday parties, or at a loud, sweaty concert, these events will be less conducive to lovemaking.
Doing something romantic once in a while will show your lady that she really matters to you.

5   Be attentive to her needs. If you're not attentive to your lady's everyday needs, then how will you be attentive in the bedroom? Your girl needs to feel like you know when she's sad, nervous, anxious, or even just cold or hungry. Pay attention to her eyes, her body language, and her words to know if there's something bothering her. If you act completely oblivious when she's obviously upset about something, then she'll think you're not really paying attention to her.
If something's wrong, don't be afraid to ask her what's up. This will only show that you care.

6   Make sure she's ready to made love. If you really want to treat your lady well, then you have to be able to have an idea about whether or not she's ready for sex. If you're her first boyfriend, if she's sexually inexperienced, or if she's deeply religious or has other moral convictions that make her steadfast about not having sex, then you should back off and wait for her to trust you enough to even consider having sex with you. But here are some ways to know if she does want to made love with you:
If things have been getting hot and heavy in the hook up department, then she may be ready to move forward.
If she's been talking about sex, giving you sexual compliments, and touching you a lot more, then she may be ready for sex.
If she's been hinting that she wants to sleep over, spends a lot of time in or near your bed, or invites you over late at night, then she may be ready for more intimacy.
If she has deep moral or religious convictions that make her not want to made love, don't try to force it. Accept that some girls will never made love until they're married, and that there's nothing you can do to change that.



Turn Her On

1   Be prepared. If you plan on trying to made love, or even talking about having sex with your girl, then you should be prepared with some condoms in case the mood strikes her. This doesn't mean that you should flash the condoms or make her feel uncomfortable, but it does mean that you should have some backup just in case things do go in a favorable direction.
If she wants to made love and you have to run out to the drug store for some condoms, this may make your first sexual experience fall flat.

2   Set the mood. If you want your girl to made love with you, then you have to set the mood. You should start the evening by doing something romantic to soften her up. Then, go back to your (clean) apartment, which should be stocked with red wine, grapes, chocolate, and some light jazz on the radio. Light the candles and turn the radio on to get her in a romantic mindset, and offer her something to eat or drink.
If this feels corny, you should only do what makes you both get in the mood. If you just want to dim the lights instead of lighting candles, then that's fine too.

3   Kiss her. If you want your girl to made love with you, then you have to be a master kisser. Even if you've been kissing for a while, you should still know how to kiss her in a variety of ways and make your kisses feel fresh. Don't overwhelm her and grope her the second you lock lips. Instead, take it slow, grazing your lips as you touch her hair or stroke her face.
Take breaks from kissing so she has time to come up for air and want you even more.
You are not very likely to made love with your girlfriend if all you've done is kiss. It takes a bit longer for things to reach a natural progression.

4   Play hard to get. If you really want to make your girlfriend want you, then you shouldn't act like a sexual beast, moving rapidly from kissing to touching, to ripping off your clothes and practically levitating into the bedroom. Instead, you should kiss your girlfriend for a few seconds, then hold back, stroke her, and talk to her. Repeat this move a few times and wait for her to go wild.
Why does playing hard to get work? Because this will make your girlfriend feel like you like her, but that you're in control of your desires and aren't desperate to get your hands all over her -- even if you are.
This move will make her want to be the one who asks for more.

5   Touch her. If you want to turn on your girlfriend, you can start thinking about doing more than just kissing. Begin by lightly caressing her arms, the back of her head and hair, and then, as things progress, stroke her breasts under her shirt or wait for her to touch you. If your clothes are off or partly off, you can kiss her breasts or touch her through her underwear to get her in the mood.
Just make sure that your actions are reciprocated -- if you're touching her and she just lies there and doesn't make noise or do anything, then you're probably making her uncomfortable. Make sure she's ready for more before you proceed.
If you're already in the bedroom and hooking up, then you can simply ask her if she's ready to made love with you. This doesn't have to be elaborate or corny -- just say, "Are you sure you're ready?" and be prepared for any answer.

6   Don't ever pressure her. If your girlfriend says she's not ready to made love with you, then you shouldn't pressure her. Don't try making any arguments -- saying things like, "But we've been together for so long," "Everyone else is doing it," or "But I really, really like you," isn't going to make her feel any better. In fact, trying to reason with her will only make her more frustrated, annoyed, and much less likely to sleep with you.