First trial under ‘anti-gay’ law starts in Uganda

 On Wednesday a Ugandan couple arrested in January began pleading their case in court against charges of engaging in gay sex which has recently been outlawed by President Yoweri Museveni

Mukasa Jackson, left, and Mukisa Kim, right, in court in Uganda charged with engaging in gay sex. Photograph: Rebecca Vassie/AP

The detained couple, identified as Mukasa Jackson and Mukisa Kim, appeared in a magistrates court after the prosecution was satisfied it had gathered enough evidence against the accused, according to the Mail & Guardian newspaper.

Accrording to their lawyer Ladislaus Rwakafuuzi “Prosecutors have lined up several witnesses to testify against the two, who have been charged with engaging in sex acts “against the order of nature”. ”

This is the first trial of offenders under the stringent laws passed by the Ugandan president in February this year. The laws effectively strengthen criminal repercussions for gay sex.

Ugandan police arrested the couple in January as they fled an angry mob, said local watchdog the Human Rights Awareness and Promotion Forum.

Source: Mail & Guardian

MESSAGE FOR THE SINGLE LADIES AND GENTS

A Very Touching Story....
A poor boy was in love with a rich man's
daughter….One day the boy proposed to her
and the girl said…”Hey! Listen, your monthly
salary is my daily hand expenses..How can I
be involved with you..?
How could you have thought of that? I can
never love you, so forget about me and get
engaged to someone else at your level”
But somehow the boy could not forget her
so easily…..Some time 10 years later they
stumbled into each other in a shopping mall.

The lady again said….,”Hey.. ! You! How are
you? Now I’m married and do you know
how much my husband’s salary is..? $15,700
per month! Can you beat that? And he is also
very smart”
The guy’s eyes got wet with tears on hearing
those words from the same lady….
A few seconds later,
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her husband came
around but before the lady could say a word
her husband seeing the guy, said……
“Sir you’re here and you’ve met my wife..”
Then he said to his wife,”This is my boss, I’m
also one of those working on his $100 million project!
And do you know a fact my dear? My boss
loved a lady but he couldn’t win her
heart….That’s why he has remained
unmarried since.
How lucky would that lady have been, if she
had married this my boss now? These days,
who would love someone that much?"
He said all these to his wife.

The lady looked in total shock but couldn’t
utter a word….
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Life is so short and it’s just like a mirror.
You can only see as much as it reflects. So
don’t be too arrogant or proud by looking
down on others because of their current
situations.
Things get changed with time just like the
weather..! Don’t under estimate anyone
because everyone has a great future!
Where you have been rejected before, you
will be celebrated soon in Jesus name.


God bless you & Feel free to Like and SHARE
for Others to read!!

PHOTO: 5 Things You Should Never Say To A Nak*d Woman

Love can be messy, so to straighten things out, sometimes you have to start a difficult conversation. Communication is the most critical factor in a couple's success—it's even more significant than the s*x itself.
According to a s*x therapist, Arlene Goldman, Ph.D., you have to develop the vocabulary to talk about sensitive issues. It will help you please your partner.
Read five things you should never say to a nak'd woman:

“Not now, thanks. I'd rather just read my book.”
You're allowed to be tired, but make sure she knows you're surprised too. Try, "I can't believe I'm saying this, but I'm too exhausted," says Finkel. 

Then ask for a rain check—say, for the morning—and tell her you'll do anything she wants. "Reassuring her is important," Goldman says. If she knows you're still interested, she'll give you a pass.

“There's something really weird I want to try wih you.”
Congrats—now she's leery. "If you say, 'I know this is weird, but. . .' your partner is bound to feel conflicted," Goldman says. A smarter way in: "I'm curious about bondage. What do you think?" By starting a conversation instead of forcing her to say yes or no, you give her time to think. She'll see that you view the act as a way to connect, not control.

“That orgasm seemed as phony as Cheez Whiz.”
Don't accuse her, says Eli Finkel, Ph.D., a professor of social psychology at Northwestern University. Instead, have that talk away from the bedroom. When the topic comes up naturally, say, "You don't ever need to fake orgasms with me. I want our relationship to be totally honest." You'll foster mutual respect—in and out of the sack.

“I'll enjoy the s*x more after you take an STD test.”
The message she hears: "I suspect you have an STD." That's not exactly a turn-on. So flip the script: Tell her you want to get tested for her sake, and ask if she'd be willing to do it with you. If you frame the suggestion as something the two of you can do together, says Goldman, then she won't feel accused.

“Is that supposed to feel good? I don't like it.”
Say this, and you'll look like an ass. Instead, show that you're eager to improve too, says Goldman. Ask, "What do you want more of or less of in bed?" You'll learn something about your own game, and when it's your turn to share, she'll be all ears. One trick: Sandwich the complaint between two compliments, and it will go down even easier.

Please Help! My Husband’s Manhood Is Too Large

s3xual compatibility is important for every loving relationship. It can be upsetting for both partners to not being able to enjoy being together to the full extent. A young woman tells about her problem and asks for your help.
I’m happily married for almost a year. My husband and I are both young and very much in love with each other.


He was my first ever boyfriend, and I was his second girlfriend. He also was my first man sexually, but I wasn’t his first experience. He never told me why he had broken up with his first girlfriend, despite my constant questions. He seemed to be embarrassed and only told me they called it quits soon after having s*x with each other. Now I seem to understand why.

Before marrying, we didn’t have s*x. I insisted, and he had no problem with it.
But it turns out, my husband has a very big manhood. I love him and I sincerely want to pleasure him,
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but every intercourse is so painful! So I try to avoid fulfilling my spousal duties, and that leads to conflicts. He apologizes every time for inflicting pain, but I’m dreading any new experience.

I don’t know what to. I’m too shy to talk it over with my Mom or sisters, or even the doctor. It may seem like a minor and even hilarious problem, but it’s not.

EXCLUSIVE=> 5 Secrets Your Woman Is Keeping From You

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

At times we all withhold information in relationships, whether it’s to spare someone’s feelings or because we’re too afraid to admit what’s really on our mind. But there are certain things a woman will always keep from the man they’re in a relationship with.
In my role as a clinical psychologist (and even as a friend), I’ve heard a countless number of women of all ages sharing their frustrations about romantic relationships. And believe it or not, we all have the same set of five secrets we keep because don’t want to appear insecure or needy. I encourage you to share these topics
we tend to stay mum about with your partner. You’ll not only educate him, but you’ll also get an honest dialogue going in your relationship.

1. We don’t ever want to hear about the details of your past relationships. Period.
While we’re sitting confidently and radiantly across from you at the dinner table, the last thing we want to be served is an appetizer of information about your ex. Just stop dishing about her before we lose both our appetite and collective cool. To be honest, we’d much rather you talk about any other topic, so if a woman tells you that she’s completely comfortable with you discussing an ex then you should definitely run for cover.
Relationship tip: Take a breath, have a sip of your drink, and charmingly say that we’re the only woman you want to talk about.

2. We really don’t want to know if we ‘look fat’ or the answer to any similar type of question.
These are trick questions. We want to hear that we look good (not ‘fine’, but good!). And by all means, don’t look at us and try to answer the question earnestly and honestly. We don’t want to hear that we don’t look good, because the truth is that we already know the answer to the question. We’re just simply speaking out loud.
Relationship tip: Don’t walk from this question—RUN!

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3. We’re not comfortable with your blossoming relationship with a potential ‘work wife.’
We know that the woman you’re talking about has noticed your attention and is probably putting some extra effort into selecting her outfit in the morning. We’re so not cool with this.
Relationship tip: It’s okay to chat about work, but don’t talk about a female colleague who you’re obviously connecting with and then refer to her as your ‘work wife.’ It will only make your partner feel unnecessarily jealous and insecure.

4. We want you to remember the details of what we say.
When we’re talking to you we expect you to listen to the details, not just the overall message. So if we’re telling you about something going in our life, particularly about a problem that’s bothering us, we’ll actually want you to refer back to it at some point and follow up with us.
Relationship tip: If a woman tells you that she has everything under control and that you shouldn’t worry, you shouldn’t necessarily believe her. We actually want you to worry enough to pay attention and make note of what’s important. Your woman will adore you for this.

5. We want you to like our friends but not be enamored with them.
Sure, you can ask about our friends, but you need to pay careful attention to how much time you spend asking about each friend. We take stock of these things, make mental notes, and take the ‘emotional temperature’ of your questions.

Relationship tip: If you seem to be asking too many questions about a particular friend then you will get into trouble. Don’t even think about arguing with me on this one. I talk to women all the time and believe me they too are keeping score!

VIDEO=>Two ladies caught in the act in public-Shocking!!

See these two big girls rip each other clothes off in public !
oMG
Where are men at?
huh?

 





 

 

...MY DAD RAPD ME AND INFECTED ME WITH HIV A1DS.PLEASE READ

...MY DAD RAPD ME AND GAVE ME HIV AIDS.."



I was born in a every poor family.my mom died when I was 15 n I lived with my dad since but I was never happy because my father was a drunk lazy man.my dreams was to become a model o fashion designer but all of my dreams ended when I was 18 after my father raped me n I got pregnant n I couldn't go back to school again. 


Not only that but my father was HIV positive so I gave birth to an HIV positive baby girl but still my father had a chance of lie to people that I had been going out with boys so he kicked me out of the house,I lived a hard life with my child but my girls couldn't make it she died of hunger n malaria.


i never give up n I moved of with my life I meet a wonderful man and he helped me fulfill my dreams.i became what I wanted to be,
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I was happy.but now am here on the hospital bed fight for my life after fall on the fashion show stage.


style="color: #000000;">Apart from suffering from HIV but I also got blood cancer and the doctor said I don't have much time to live. But before I die just want to tell my father that I still love him and I forgive him...

Woman posts video of her ABORTION on YouTube-Must watch (PARENTAL ADVISORY-GRAPHIC)

'I wanted to show it wasn’t scary': Woman posts video of her ABORTION on YouTube

 



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Twins Who Have Different Fathers--AMAZING!!!

Twins Marcus and Lucas ­arrived in the world just 48 minutes apart... yet they have two ­different fathers.

Mum Charlotte Hilbrandt became ­pregnant by ex-husband Michael AND new boyfriend Tommy when she slept with both men within 48 hours.

It means the boys, who turned six last week, are one of only three known sets of twins in the world who are genetic half-brothers, beating odds of a billion to one.

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“You have a bigger chance of winning the lottery than something like this ­happening,” said 38-year-old Charlotte.

She is the first to admit her boys are like chalk and cheese. Cheeky Marcus, her son by Michael, is short and stout, red-haired with bundles of energy. His twin Lucas, her son by Tommy, is taller, blonde and has a more gentle, calm manner.

Even more surprisingly, both dads are very much a part of their lives and Charlotte says they are one big happy family.

The story of the twins’ bizarre conception began after Charlotte, who already had two sons by Michael Nielsen, divorced him in August 2004.

“After we split up I started to go out a bit more,” said Charlotte. “One evening in the bar this handsome blond man called Tommy ­Kallehauge came over. We got on well and began to see each other.”

But Michael had always hoped to get back together with Charlotte and in the heat of the moment they ended up in bed together on New Year’s Day

Worried she might jeopardise her fledgling relationship with Tommy, Charlotte kept quiet about what had happened. “The ­incident with Michael had been a one-off and I was determined it would stay that way, ” she said.

But Charlotte’s moment of madnesscame back to haunt her when a few months later, feeling sick and bloated, she went to the doctor.

“He confirmed what I had been dreading… that I was ­pregnant,” she said. “But that wasn’t all. I was ­expecting twins.”

With her emotions all over the place Charlotte decided ­honesty was the best policy but faced the agonising task of ­telling both men they could be the twins’ father.

“It was a very chaotic period,” she said.

“Michael was hoping two more ­children would bring us back ­together while ­Tommy had ­always wanted a family and was desperate for the twins to be his.”

Michael was with her when the boys arrived on August 23, 2005. Lucas was born first at 1.35pm followed 48 minutes later by Marcus at 2.23pm.

“We’d already had two ­children together, and Michael had been very involved in my life while I was pregnant,” said Charlotte. “It only seemed fair that he should be the one in the room with me.”

But within weeks of the twins’ birth, ­Charlotte soon realised the boys were hardly two peas in a pod.

“Marcus was red-haired with a tiny nose and looked like my two elder boys, Phillip and Victor.

“Lucas was blond with soft facial ­features and a long head, just like Tommy’s.

“But having twins is so overwhelming I hardly had time or the energy to deal with the fact that they probably had different fathers and what that might mean to Tommy, Michael and me.

“However, it was pretty obvious, and my mother was the first person to say what we were all thinking. The boys were just a ­couple of weeks old when she said,‘They don’t look alike.’ And that was it.”

Despite what had ­happened Tommy, 33, and Charlotte got back together and six months after the twins’ birth they decided to move in together. A short while later, Tommy bumped into Michael in a pub in their home town of ­Aalbaek in Denmark.

Over a pint the two men cleared the air to ensure both could be part of the boys’ lives. Yet it wasn’t until the twins were one year old that Charlotte, Tommy and Michael were ready to take a DNA test to find out for certain that the boys had different fathers. A few weeks later, the answer arrived in the post. The test proved the twins did indeed have different dads, stating: “The results do not imply that the children Lucas Hilbrandt Nielsen and Marcus Hilbrandt Nielsen have the same biological father. The probability of this preclusion exceeds 99.99 per cent.”

Charlotte said: “Even though it was what we had all suspected, it was still strange to get the answer. We didn’t exactly jump with joy, neither were we unhappy.

“Most of all it was a relief to get things straight so we could all start making our arrangements for the boys.”

It was never in question that both dads wanted to be there for their sons. And it led Tommy, Charlotte and Michael to have the boys christened. The church went ­completely quiet when the vicar named Marcus “Nielsen” after his father Michael, and Lucas ­“Kallehauge” after his father Tommy.

Charlotte said: “Friends and family have been very supportive about the situation and there have been no raised eyebrows in the community probably because we have been so open about the situation all along.

Michael’s three boys Phillip 12, Victor, eight, and Marcus spend every other weekendwith him and sometimes Michael will take Lucas too. All four boys get on well and Michael and Tommy consider themselves friends.

“A lot of people say we’re liars… that you can’t have twins with different fathers,” said Charlotte.

“That’s why we want to tell our story. It’s because something like this only has ­happened a few times in history.”

The science is easy.. but Mamma Mia, try telling the men!

By DR VIRGINIA BECKETT of the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists

I have never come across a case like this. But if a woman is going to sleep with more than one partner at the same time it is perfectly feasible that if she has twins they could have different fathers.

In this case these twins were conceived at the same time even though the mother did not have s*x with the fathers at the same time. The sperm from the first man would have been in her fallopian tube, where it is effective for three to four days. Then she had s*x with the second man and released two eggs. The eggs, which live for 24 hours, were fertilised by different sperm from the different men.

The science is easily explained, but it may have been less easy for the mother to explain. It’s like the plot of Mamma Mia!

 

VIA dailymirror.co.uk

 

 

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Woman discovers her twin sons have DIFFERENT fathers on the Maury Show

It takes a lot to shock Maury Povich.

But the talk show host admitted that even he couldn't believe it when a woman came on the show to prove her ex-boyfriend was the father of her twins - only to find that he was the father of just one of them.

Speaking about the revelation, which was aired live on his show, he admitted he did not even think this was possible.

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Twins: Jayla, left, and Julius, who have two different fathers making them half brothers

Mother: Alejandrina said that she did not sleep with any one else when she was with Jose but a paternity test said differently

 

Father: Jose said he was not the father of the twins and claimed his ex-girlfriend was a 'party girl' who slept around

Reaction: Jose jumped for joy when he found out that Julius was not his and called Alejandrina a whore

He said: 'The show has very dramatic and very edgy themes which I think are played out in American society. The most unusual dramatic DNA theme was when the woman came on the show and had different fathers to her twins.'

Regina contacted the Maury show to try to prove that her ex-boyfriend Eric was responsible for her twins.

When Povich read out the DNA results and announced that Eric was the father of just one of her twins, he had to explain to a visibly shocked audience that this was not beyond the realms of possibility.

When it happened a second time on the show in 2008, to 19-year-old Alejandrina and her ex-boyfriend Jose, he was armed with the facts.

Amazed: Maury Povich said he didn't even know twins could have two different fathers until the case came on his show

Shock discovery: Regina was the first mother on the show to find out that her children had two different fathers

Denial: Eric refused to believe the twins were his and jumped for joy when they found out only one was

He said: 'I want to explain about this situation. Its happened before on this show with fraternal twins. Less than one per cent of fraternal twins are from different fathers, to be accurate 0.001 per cent of the time and this is one of those less than one per cent.'

This occurrence is so uncommon that only a few cases have been documented in medical records.

HETEROPATERNAL SUPERFECUNDATION

Heteropaternal superfecundation occurs when two or more of a woman's eggs are fertilized by different men within the same ovulation period.

Sperm are capable of waiting in the fallopian tubes for between three and five days, while the ovum may only survive a matter of hours if fertilization does not occur. The fertilization time window is relatively narrow, particularly if sperm from two different males must arrive.


Given the single-pair reproduction strategy employed by most people, these criteria are very rarely met. 

There are between seven and ten documented cases in medical literature about twins with different fathers.

In rare instances when twins are conceived by different fathers, it's called heteropaternal superfecundation, which occurs when two or more of a woman's eggs are fertilized by different men within the same ovulation period.

Before the results were read out, Alejandrina promised that she had not slept with anyone else while she was with Jose and broke down in tears when the truth came out.

He said his ex was a 'party girl' and said the test results proved she was a 'whore'.

Jose said he would take responsibility for the one child while Povich told Alejandrina that they would do another paternity test if she was able to find the father of her second child.

In May 2009, Mia Washington from Texas also gave birth to twins with different fathers.

She and her fiancé ordered a paternity test when they noticed the twins had very different features. She then admitted to having an affair.

VIA: http://www.dailymail.co.uk

Have you ever used s3x to get something you want?

“What is the difference between a person who actively sells s3x and a person who expects drinks or dinner if they are to eventually give someone s3x at some point?”

Photo: Shutterstock

This question was posed on a twitter chat held during International S3x Worker Month (International S3x Worker Rights Day being March 3). The social media conversation had people from all over Africa giving their views on s3x work and of course some real gems were released, with many citing religion, tradition and the need to uphold family values as reasons for disallowing the legalisation of s3x work. One twitter user went as far as saying that if prostitution was legalised everyone would revert to it and there would be “no more marriages and babies”. According to this man everyone wants to be a s3x worker and everyone wants to be with a s3x worker, it is just the pesky legal system holding us all back.

What makes s3x work different from a person who insists on material gain from someone who is s3xually interested in them?

But amid the storm of statements one did stand out that had people questioning the automatic stigma attached to s3x work: What makes s3x work different from a woman or man who insists on material gain from someone who is s3xually interested in them to monopolise their time? What is the difference between a woman/man who has a man/woman pay his or her bills or buy him or her gifts in return for an unspoken promise of s3x and someone who just asks for the cash up-front? One could argue that the second group merely show more shrewd business sense, one being more of a long-term investment plan while the other is a quick turnaround profit.

The idea took me back to the days when clubbing was something I actually did and would often expect anyone trying to “court” me to buy me a drink. In hindsight I am not proud of it but at the time it was what it was, that was just the social contract put in place. To talk to the nice lady by the bar, buy her a drink. I also recalled a time when I would use the phrase “gosh slick you could at least take me out to dinner first” when someone said anything even remotely sexual. Granted that phrase was said in jest but at the end of the day it had a great deal of social connotation to it (I learnt it from the 90s movie Baby Geniuses, so go figure).

The fact is people accept things all the time due to the fact that the other person offers it in the hope that they will see them in niude at some point. This is just a fact of life. And tacit or xplicit acceptance of whatever it is they are offering does mean that you have exchanged goods for s3x. It truly is as simple as that. Of course there are other dimensions such as love, a long, lasting relationship and other such virtuous ideas sometimes attached to this but at the end of the day that is what has happened and is not that far outside the realms of what happens “out there”.

This should cause one to question the stigma attached to s3x work.
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There are various arguments made against sex work that include the vulnerability of s3x workers, the exploitative nature as well as the fact that they add to the moral decay of society and I for one agreed with many if not all of them. But this month pushed me out of my comfort zone and into the realm of interacting with s3x workers and I have learned a few things.

The first is that there is an empowered element to s3x work — often they set the boundaries for their interactions and can negotiate their own terms. Some s3x workers actually enjoy their work. This all needs to be taken on a case-by-case basis. Not all s3x workers want to be saved, not all despise their job and existence.

Not all s3x workers want to be saved, not all despise their job and existence

Sex work is also one of the world’s oldest professions, and chances are you will know someone (if not multiple people) in your life who have been with a s3x worker. Prostitution has been around for thousands of years and the world is still spinning, people still have families and the sun still rises. And the honest truth is whoever uses a s3x worker is going to find miscellaneous s3x anyway even if all s3x workers disappeared.

So at the risk of inciting mass pitchfork gatherings and torches I challenge you to think about your situation and ask yourself, have you used s3x to get something you want from your spouse, lover or some other person you have an amorous relationship with? Have you in some way demanded compensation for your time by using your s3xuality, gotten a drink or possibly a gift of some sort or even a meal? Did you obtain this because of your shining personality? It might be time to have a look at these instances and check the prejudices you have.

Transactional s3x is far more widespread than we would as a society care to admit.

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Egypt jails 4 men for g@y acts

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Four Egyptian men were sentenced up to eight years in prison for committing homos3xual acts. The men had been accused of arranging deviant s3x parties and dressing in women’s clothes plus wearing make-up.

Although Egyptian law does not explicitly ban homos3xual acts, prosecutors still found a way of using legislation banning debauchery to try the men

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How I infected 324 men with HIV – Female student reveals (PICTURED)

A female student in Kenya has revealed that she has infected a total of 324 men with the Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV).

The HIV positive girl, who attends the Kabarak University in Nakuru, is said to have been infected by a man at a party.

The unnamed 19-year old is allegedly aiming to infect a total of 2000 men in revenge.

According to reports:

The girl allegedly contacted Kenyan Scandals on Facebook and claimed she had something to confess.

After she was assured her identity was going to be protected (the Kenyan Daily Post, however, published a picture from her Facebook profile along with the article) she wrote: “Sep 22nd 2013 is a day I”ll never forget, we went clubbing in town and got drunk with some senior students then went back hostels for party round 2″.
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She then explained that when she woke up, the morning after, she realized a boy called Javan had had sex with her while she was drunk.

“I only asked if he used a condom and he said yes, however when taking bath I noticed sperms down there, I wanted to commit suicide, I feared getting pregnant and HIV.”

When she discovered she was HIV positive, the girl confronted Javan who insisted he was clean.

“I was so depressed and took alcohol to die, I even bought poison, the pain was just unbearable how was I gone face the world, I let my parents down, I gave up on the world and just wanted to end my life. My future had been ruined, somehow someone had to pay,” the girl said.

“I accepted my fate and promised to make all men I come across suffer, I know I’m attractive and men both married and unmarried chase me left right and centre.

“I buried the good girl in me and became the bad girl, my goal was to infect as many as possible,” she explained.

The girl then confessed she had already infected 324 men, 156 of which are students at the Kabarak University where she studies, the rest are married men, lecturers, lawyers, celebrities and politicians.

“Not a day passes without me having s3x, mostly 4 people per day,” she continued in her confession. “Your day is coming, you men destroyed my life and I will make you and your people pay for it”

 

Woman jailed for s3x with 5yr old son

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10 years is the sentence given to a 46 year old woman for molesting her 5 year old son. A magistrates court in Kenya found her guilty after she admitted to having s3x with the boy.
The child is the youngest of 3 children and shared a bed with the woman. It was proved to the court that the woman engaged her son over a period of 10 months. Source: Standard digital

“I thought only people in Africa could catch AIDS”

Rachel Dilley says she never realised that a white person could become HIV+. Source: Daily Mirror http://bit.ly/1iSKPk4

Rachel Dilley, 48, never imaged that she could possibly be HIV+.
After a short holiday relationship, she began to fall ill and it all seemed strange. According to her, she never used condoms since she knew she had very little chance of falling pregnant at her age. When someone suggested she test for HIV, she was rather surprised that this would be even suggested as she thought she couldn’t get the virus.

During a TV interview she stated “…the only thing I’d ever seen was an advert in Africa of people dying of AIDS and I thought it’s a disease you caught in that country, and only they caught it”. Source: The Africa News

Who would truly love a man who has nothing?

 — It is still a rare experience for a simple and ordinary man, especially in the modern African community, to experience genuine love.

Of course, men who feel that women love them for what they have and not who they are not in a peculiar situation. When men speak about women and love one can almost hear them say, “The prerequisite for love is material things.

You must have a posh car, a plush house, fat bank account and some status.”

Cover art of Bongo magazine, Tanzania, 1990s

Thus men who do not have these things tend to feel inadequate and thus not unafraid to approach beautiful queens because they will, inevitably, be snubbed or humiliated. The worst thing that can happen to a man’s ego is for a woman to tell him in no uncertain terms that, “You are not my type.”

Far too many women are into material class, nowadays, and many men have come to know their place understand what woman they can approach and who they cannot. We do need an understanding about what constitutes love, if there is any such thing in a money driven world. This thing called ‘love’ has become such an elusive and fleeting emotion that it is very easy to know who dates the best women in society. We all know that it is the moneyed types who may be politicians, businessmen, successful musicians and, above all, rich thugs. In fact, there is a common saying in some male circles that an ape in a Hugo Boss suit driving the latest posh car stands a better chance to have a beauty queen walk next to its heart.

To see a beautiful woman, impeccable in dress, well connected in social circles and to imagine her dating a simple and ordinary Joe Average has become, increasingly, a rare sight. It is as if, truly, all the beautiful Mzansi angels who walk the earth have been put on this world to enjoy the best that life has to offer. And, of course, that can only be offered by men who have money and all that it can buy.

Not too long ago, during the Easter Holidays spending spree, I watched young men and women as they emerged from movie houses, cocktail bars and restaurants at malls. Their faces were beaming with smiles of joy because they understood that love has become synonymous with money and what it can buy. Yet in the same country, I have hearkened to the cries of men whose relationships were strained and their hearts broken because there was not enough money to buy love through a candle lit dinner, a gift or red roses for the beloved.

Of course, the women are responding to the market driven image and definition of love as we have never known it to be: no romance without finance. As a result, there is a look of arrogance on the faces of some men who have ‘made it,’ a callousness that may elicit disgust or disappointment on the part of women who claim to love men for who they are and not what they have.

It is not that one wants to sling mud on the character of women on “High Heels” – that is, single, successful and satisfied – but someone has to make them realize how most men perceive their understanding of love today.

Of course, there are some women who love for the sake of it but they are very rare, indeed, in a society that judges a man by what he has. At the rate that women pile up pressure on men to go shopping, shopping and shopping one can’t help but believe that there is no romance without finance. On the same Easter holiday long weekend, for instance, I drove around to find countless men with a doomed look on their faces as they sat on pavements or stood at street corners with some hoping to find a piece job. There was a look of hopelessness on the faces of these men who could not be with their loved ones. I found myself asking: “Who would truly love a man who has nothing? What woman is willing to smother him with tenderness that will breathe a new life into his empty shell?”

Can a loser have self-love before he can expect it from someone else, especially a woman?

It is not too difficult to feel that men who have nothing are reduced to nothing, even in matters of the heart. There are far too many men who not only are trapped by the hardships of an economic system that fails to give them work and purpose. But they also die, often in poverty, neglect and the weight of slander to be buried alive because nobody understands their anguish. There has been no study to examine whether men who have lost the land and its wealth can know true love in their lifetime. In fact, can a loser have self-love before he can expect it from someone else, especially a woman? This may make us understand why the sons of defeated men are quick to walk with a swagger to declare their little material success to women.

We have to ask ourselves: in money driven society, what will make us believe that men are loved for who they are and not what they have? There are women who may do that but they have not stood at the roof tops to make us see that there can be some romance without finance. But they seem to be far too few to mention. And, of course, we know that there is no romance without finance for man must, ultimately, provide.

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South Sudan’s S3x workers Substitute ARV Drugs for Condoms

 Everyone’s focus is on the South Sudanese conflict and we are slowly forgetting that the war on HIV/AIDS must not stop, so much that the trend of using anti-retroviral drugs instead of condoms is going unnoticed

South Sudanese s3x workers take anti-retroviral drugs after unprotected s3x. These drugs are often obtained illegally from clinics. Photo: Africa Review

South Sudanese s3x workers are choosing to have unprotected s3x and pop post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) antiretroviral drugs instead.

“We don’t have money, so when we meet a client who offers more money than we usually get to have s3x without protection, then we will do it – even when we don’t know his HIV status,” says Jane, a s3x worker in South Sudan.

The national rate of HIV infection stands at 2.6 percent according to South Sudan’s AIDS Commission, while the national army (SPLA) has a five percent rate of infection.

The war on HIV/AIDS should not be abandoned because of the South Sudanese conflict, especially when antiretroviral drugs are being obtained illegally in clinics.

Source: Key Correspondents, Voice of America

How long after giving birth should I wait before having s3x?

How long before you are ready for s3x is more a personal than medical decision. Doctors and midwives have generally advised waiting until the six-week postnatal check

If you’ve just had a baby, restarting your s3x life may not be a priority. You’ll be sore, not to mention exhausted. Up to 90% of first-time mothers who deliver vaginally will have torn tissue or an episiotomy (a small cut). If you’ve had a caesarean section your wound will hurt.

Women used to be given vag1nal examinations at this point to assess healing but research showed the practice was not useful (most were fine) and it was abandoned.

A study in BJOG:An International Obstetrics and Gynaecology Journal, found that by six weeks 41% of first-time mothers had had vag1nal s3x. By 12 weeks this had risen to 78%. Women were more likely to have s3x by six weeks if they had delivered their child vag1nally. Only about a third of women who had an episiotomy had resumed s3x by six weeks.

Studies have showed an earlier return to s3x, with many women (even those who had episiotomies) having vag1nal s3x after two to four weeks. A paper in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology remarked that while women who had had stitches experienced some bleeding and discomfort they “do not experience important harm”.

So are there any reasons why you shouldn’t start having s3x again if you feel like it?

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There is some evidence that it may be best to wait three weeks. When the placenta comes out it leaves a wound in the uterus which takes time to heal. The blood vessels in this wound close up naturally by the blood clotting and the vessels themselves shrinking, but this takes at least three weeks.

Penetrative s3x can potentially introduce air into your vag1na with enough force that it can get pushed into these still blood vessels. This causes an air embolus which can be lethal but is rare: the Postgraduate Journal of Medicine reports two deaths from air emboli out of two million new mothers from 1967‑1993. The researchers warn that s3x in the knees-up-to-the chest position creates a pressure gradient that can draw air into the vessels.

Waiting may have other benefits. S3x after a baby may be disappointing, owing to tiredness and loss of libido. A study in the British Journal of General Practice in 2000 found that out of 78 first-time mothers, only 30 ranked their s3x life as good eight months after giving birth, compared with 65 who had done so beforehand.

So, it is worth realising that after having a baby both the quantity and quality of s3x may take a while to return to whatever was previously normal for you.

Article by Dr Luisa Dillner courtesy of The Guardian 

Dr Luisa Dillner is a writer and doctor, and heads BMJ Group Research and Development.

Afrocandy Banned On Facebook For Posting Unclad Pictures , Resurrects

US-based Nigerian soft-Indecency star, Judith Opara Mazagwu, a.k.a AfroCandy has bounced back weeks after she was restricted from posting Unclad pictures on her facebook page by the administrators of the social network.

Afro-CandyThe mother of two announced her comeback on her facebook page during the week, saying “I was gone for a minute now I am back again…I won’t be posting anymore sexy stuffs here because of the censorship imposed on me by facebook.

Even though I am not as explicit as the Hollywood stars are..on the social network.”
She also announced launching her own social network site.”For that reason I have created my own
socialnetwork; www.afrocandysnetwork.com where I can post whatever I want and feel like,”she said.

Meanwhile, Afrocandy posted some x-rated pictures to show what the website is all about.

Ten Things Men Find Unattractive in Women But Probably Won’t Tell You

1. Excessively Drunk Women – When I was a boy I thought a group of drunk women was the move. When I go to the club now and see a chick throwing up in the bathroom, I get repulsed. Who’s mans is this?!

2. All the way turned up – Why I can hear you in a club on any night is a problem. It’s loud, there’s loud music, and still I can hear your voice shrieking over the speakers. Or what about those women who can’t control their volume when their drunk and try and talk in your ear but they’re screaming?

3. Negative Women – These women think everything is wack. “How about this lovely 80 degree weather today?” “This is wack, why these girls think it’s ok to be wearing their open toes?!”

4. Impatience – They hate waiting. They are the type to tell you to let them know when you have arrived at the restaurant so they can leave their house. They have cavities on each side of their mouth from sucking their teeth so much.

5. Teen Spirit Women: Waiting to be entertained – These are the ones who are rimming the club waiting for the party to jump off. They bring nothing to the party, but will call it wack because it didn’t turn into a bashment. Although, they didn’t come to dance anyway.



6. Random hair cuts or attempts to go natural – Have you ever seen that look a man has when he’s been caught cheating? It is NOTHING compared to meeting up with his boo and she decided to cut all her hair off. Your hair was down to the middle of your back yesterday, but now you sporting a Kobe fro. We will not be partying like it’s 1999 boo.

7. Liars – You can just tell this woman is lying. And often times it’s about something she doesn’t have to lie about. She got a hating friend who tells you all her business, especially about how she buys fake designer shoes. And you witness her blacking on some dude; “My shoes cost more than your whole outfit, negro!” #DIQUE.

8. Ms. Know It All – I don’t even have words to describe this one because she probably wants to describe it herself. When you told her that eating too much salmon could cause mercury poisoning, she even brought her grandmother into it, “My grandmother ate salmon everyday and she lived to be 106!” Seriously, this woman can’t take a piece of advice or fact that she didn’t come up with to save her life.

9. Attention Hordes – These women are always showing out looking for a reaction in the building. She usually has the attention of most of the guys, but if there’s one focusing on one of her friends, she makes it a point to hook that guy too. “Oh you got a nice chest. Do you work out?” Meanwhile, dude ain’t got a six-pack, he got a loaf of bread and he’s drinking a 40.

10. Women who think they can do WHATEVER they want – These are the women screaming at the promoter outside the club. These are the women who will break things in your house because they are having a temper tantrum. These are the women who say things like, “And I will tell him to do it, and he will do that ish.” These are the women who end up at the Chesapeake Rest Area because their man didn’t make it out of Maryland before he put her out the Range.

HORROR AS WOMAN IS CAUGHT WITH DEAD BABY IN A BAG

A 40-year old widow who simply identified herself as Mujidat was caught on Wednesday with a dead day old baby she hid inside a sack around her residence at 2, Reverend Alimi Street, NEPA Phase I, Ijagemo in Iba Local Council Development Area of Lagos State, southwest Nigeria.
It was learnt that a member of the community, High Chief Babatunde Balogun caught the mother of seven when she was trying to dispose the baby at about 5 p.m. on Wednesday.
When questioned on the content of the sack, she claimed she was coming from the market where she bought some household items.
However, on a closer look, Balogun discovered that the sack contained a dead day old baby the woman allegedly had just delivered.

He then called the attention of the other residents. Neighbours told newsmen that after Mujidat’s husband known as Baba Mushin died about three years ago, they have seen men visiting her residence, the house built by her late husband.

When asked if she planned to throw away the baby because of an alleged paternity mess, she denied, claiming that a welder turned block maker near her residence was responsible for the pregnancy that resulted in the birth of the dead baby she was caught with.

She claimed she took delivery of the baby by herself because she found it easy and therefore did not go to any hospital or sought anybody’s help.

At about 9 p.m yesterday when reporters visited the area, residents of the area were still milling around the residence of the woman.

Officials of the Community Development Association, CDA, in the area later accompanied the woman and her sack of baby to the Isheri-Oshun Police Division where the matter was reported. At the time of this report, the woman was still being interrogated.

SHOCKING!!!!!!!! AS HIV+ Woman Arrested For Breastfeeding Neighbour’s Baby

A Zimbabwean woman who breastfed a neighbour’s baby without her consent faces a possible two-year sentence for deliberately infecting another person with HIV after she tested positive.
39-year-old Annie Mpariwa appeared in court on Wednesday … the case was deferred to October 24 to allow a second HIV test to be performed on the toddler. The child’s initial results were negative. Mpariwa was arrested last week on charges of common nuisance and should the child test positive; the charge will be raised to “deliberately infecting another person with HIV”.
The mother of the 14-month-old baby said seeing her child being breastfed by her neighbour was traumatising.
She alleged that her neighbour snatched the child while she was playing outside and hid her in her room.
After searching for the child for quite some time, she went and knocked on Mpariwa’s rented room and got no response.
Upon peeping through the window, she saw her breastfeeding the little girl.
I was shocked. I nearly fainted,” she said, adding that her breasts were leaking milk yet she was not a nursing mother or pregnant.
The incident comes in the wake of a newly enacted law on HIV and Aids that calls for stiffer penalties on people who deliberately infect others with HIV.

Retribution? Grown Man Suddenly Grows B0obs...Villagers Call It Pay Back For Stealing

For a Zimbabwean man from Mhondoro its pay back time...or so villagers say.
The man, identified as Acry Chinhivi Shayamano, is suspected to have stolen cattle after which he suddenly grew b0obs.Villagers believe the 40-year-old man from Nherera in Mhondoro has been fixed by the cattle owner. The victim Acry has however denied ever stealing cattle, maintaining that his boobs were not that bad.
“Who told you that I have grown b0obs. Mine are not that bad. I never stole anyone’s cattle,” he said.


Another picture of Acry and his b0obs after the cut.

He said his grandmother lost two cows in February and that was the time he noticed his b0obs started growing. He added that people just made a connection, which was not the case.

But he did admit that he was a thief but has never stolen cattle.

“I steal but not cattle. I stole some DVDs and I was arrested and ordered to pay a fine,” he said.

Acry said his boobs were not painful but were still growing. He said the b0obs could be a side effect of the Antiretroviral drug, ARVs, he was taking. He has been taking them for the past three years.

But some villagers are convinced that Acry is paying for his crime.

Hamilton Magaisa (50) said: “We all know that Acry grew b0obs because of his thieving. People who steal are punished in so many ways. I have no sympathy for him.”

So I'm thinking? can antiretroviral drugs really make a man develop female b0obs, or is Acry really suffering from a 'b0ob curse?' What ever the case may be, I find this report VERY amusing. People are really coming up with innovative ways to punish theft...lol.

Corpse tumbles out of coffin as gang arrested

IT is said there is no honour among thieves and, perhaps, no shortage of humour either - at least of the gallows sort - if the bizarre case of suspected armed robbers who tried to pay homage to a dead colleague with a Harare street parade is anything to go by.

The tribute hurrah degenerated into dark comedy after the gang loaded Borris Mushonga’s coffin onto the top of a Toyota Raum and tried a bit of noisy fishtailing (a reckless car manoeuvre) in a bid to send their mate off with a flourish.

Yet no one had remembered to secure the fairly ornate casket and it soon crashed onto the road, scattering the 25-year-old’s severed remains on the pot-holed surface to the horror of his mother who had flown in from the UK.

A pastor would likely have declared "earth to earth, dust to dust" but not quite in that manner, surely.

It also emerged that the drama was linked to last Thursday’s road crash death of five people along Harare’s Simon Mazorodze road when their speeding vehicle burst a front tyre and smashed into an oncoming bus.

The five fatalities – who included the curiously lamented Mushonga - were, in fact, suspected robbers who had managed to shake off a police chase after robbing a woman they had given a lift of her mobile phone.

Wife Gets Her Head Cut Off For Cheating **Viewer Discretion Is Advised**

This is Just Sad, Barbaric and totally unacceptable. Came across this video this morning and i couldn’t help but share with you all especially the ladies, be sure of who you’re dating……In a world where the law thrives and the judiciary exist, can’t believe that someone could do this to a woman he once claimed to love regardless of her crime….Beheading a woman cause she was allegedly caught cheating???…..Lord have Mercy!

Still shocked extremely and can’t seem to believe and conclude that this actually happened and if it does then what happens to this Murderer?

To the Ladies, If he can slap you then he can beat you…If he can beat you, My dear he can ‘BOKO HARAM” you…..

BIZZARE: 15-yr-old Secondary School Girl Attacks Mate, Stabs Her Endlessly Over Lover [GRAPHIC PHOTO]

A teenager, Haliya Odunaya, may have to abandon schooling for the time pending the time the deep cut inflicted on her neck by a woman, who accused her of illicit affair with her lover, would heal. Haliya, a Senior Secondary School class 2 pupil, is lying critically ill at Stars Clinic on Apapa Road, Ebute Metta West, Lagos where doctors are battling hard to save her life.

When she was rushed to the hospital on Saturday, March 15, 2014 Haliya, not many believed that she would make it. Haliya, 15, lives with her parents at Shomore, on Ilogbo area of Oyingbo in Lagos Mainland Local Government Area of the state.

The third born of a family of five children, Haliya, it was gathered, was a victim of a jealous lover who would not want anyone be near her boyfriend.

It was learnt that one Funmilola, probably of the same age as Haliya, stabbed her over suspicion based bordering on this. It was reported that a couple of weeks before the incident, Funmilola, had approached Haliya when she started noticing the closeness of her (Haliya) and her lover.

Then, Funmilola had reportedly warned Haliya to stay off her man, reportedly threatening to go any length with anyone she found around the man.

Further was gathered that a day before she attacked Haliya, Funmilola reportedly stripped another lady stark naked in the same locality for the same reason.

Thus, on that fateful Saturday, Funmilola was allegedly informed by another friend that Haliya was in company with her (Funmilola’s) boyfriend. It was reported that before Funmilayo got to where Haliya and the man were supposedly standing, both had left and she headed straight for Haliya’s house.

As Haliya appeared from the corner of the street, Funmilola reportedly accosted her and began to rain abuses on the young lady. Speaking on her hospital bed, Haliya, who denied having an affair the man in question narrated continued the story.

“I was coming from where I went to buy something that night when Funmilola met me at the end of the street.

She started pushing me and insulting me but I did not utter a word. When I entered our house, she stood outside and was shouting at the top of her voice heaping insults on my parents and I.

“At that stage I decided to respond to her threats and went to meet her to warn her against insulting my mother. After I had told her my mind, I turned to go back into our building and that was when she (Funmilola) dragged me back and produced a sharp object from under her cloths and attacked me with it,” Haliya alleged.

Is Your Partner/lover/spouse Cheating on You??? Here are 18 Ways To Catch Them

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

1. Watch the signs. Do you see a change in your partner’s behavior recently? Have they started working out, dressing better, or started using a new seductive intense evening perfume? They may have no reason for the changes, and almost always, these changes may seem very spontaneous.

 

2. Drop by unannounced. Every now and then, drop by unannounced to their workplace or come back home early. Don’t make it obvious that you’re just spying on them. Instead, always have a great excuse to walk in unannounced. If your partner is cheating on you, the first thing they’d do *instead of welcoming you with a smile* is hide something or appear surprised or even angry!

 

3.Check their recycle bin. The garbage is a great place to dispose of things. And sometimes, it also has a lot of clues. If your partner is on the computer often, check the computer’s recycle bin often. Chances are, there may be another person’s photo or a little snippet of information that could be of some use.

 

4. Snoop on their phone. Does your partner carry their cell phone with them wherever they go, even if it’s a trip to the loo? If that’s happening in your relationship, there’s a good chance your partner’s up to something. Take a peek into their cell phone when you get the chance, especially when they’ve put the phone on charge.

Erased phone logs, a password protected phone, several calls to the same unknown numbers, or phone bills without detailed call information are all good signs that your partner is trying to hide something.

 

5. Spontaneous s3x. This works better if you’re a girl, and dating a guy. If your boyfriend or husband comes home late from any unexpected delay, try to have spontaneous s3x with them when they get back home. If your guy gets angry, pushes you away or tries avoiding it at all costs, chances are, he may be exhausted down there. He could always wash himself up before getting home, but getting it up immediately and blowing a huge load, that’s not the easiest thing to do!

 

6. Follow after a fight. Most cheating partners intentionally try to pick fights, slam the door and walk away, because it makes a great excuse to slip out of the house and meet their adulterous lover. If your partner’s been picking fights and walking out of the house often recently, try to follow them on the pretense of apologizing *if they see you following them*.

 

7. Change your sleeping habits. If your partner’s cheating on you, their sleeping habits may change almost overnight. They may stay up longer using the excuse of work, or you may catch them sneaking around the house late at night. Pretend like you’re asleep as soon as you hit the bed, and try to see if your partner’s up to something. Do they get out of bed for long periods of time?

And it’s not just late nights you need to think about. Some cheating partners may even wake up really early and get on the phone, especially if they realize you suspect them.

 

8. Does your partner want space? Space is something all of us need in a relationship, whether we accept it or not. But has your partner started getting fiercely protective about their space recently? Do they hate answering questions about where they’ve been or what they’ve been up to? It’s definitely a small warning sign.

 

9. They get jumpy. Try walking in on your partner when they least expect it without announcing yourself, especially if they’ve been by themselves for a while. Does your partner act jumpy or nervous when you walk in on them, especially if they’re over the phone or in front of their computer? They were probably doing something and they don’t want you to know what it was.
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10. Changes in schedule. All of a sudden, your partner may stay out a lot of nights on work, or have a lot of get-togethers on their social calendar with their friends. If your partner doesn’t ever invite you with their friends, or if they claim to be very busy working and still look fresh and happy when they get home, your partner’s probably up to something.

 

11. The phone etiquette. Your partner suddenly needs a lot of space while talking over the phone. They either sound awkward or they walk away from you to the next room while talking over the phone with a few people. You may even find text messages from random numbers with random texts in them.

Remember, when people cheat, they could always store the other lover’s number under another name, and use code words to interact with each other when they miss each other!

 

12. Gadgets. Your partner has changed most of their passwords, even if you thought you knew all of them. And even when you ask them for the new password, they make an excuse to hide it from you. And sometimes, you may see that they position their computer facing away from you, and they would never do that before.

 

13. Grooming habits. Hitting the gym, wearing new clothes and perfume are all signs your partner wants to look better. But are they going overboard with their appearances? Has your partner started grooming themselves down there meticulously all of a sudden, even though they aren’t keen on doing something with you?

 

14. Sneaking away. Does your partner sneak out of the house every now and then, using the silliest of excuses? “I’m driving down to the store to get something…” “My friends are catching up around the corner…” “I’m bored, I’m going for a drive…” or something along those lines?

That’s alright though. But when you offer to tag along, what does your partner say? Do they make an excuse to go alone? That’s fishy, don’t you think?

 

15. Hidden cameras. Place a spycam in the room where your partner hangs out most often when they want alone time. If they’re over the phone or doing some funny business behind your back, you’ll know soon enough.

 

16. Create a fake profile. Create a fake profile and log on to websites that promote cheating spouses and see if your partner’s using one of them. Or for starters, just create a fake facebook profile and add a lot of random friends to make your account seem legitimate.

And then, send an invite to your partner and get friendly with them. And over a few days or weeks, start flirting with them and see how they respond to you. Are they interested in meeting up or hooking up?

 

17. Keyloggers. Keyloggers are software that you can download off the net *some free and some for a price*. Some of these keyloggers, especially the paid versions, can be installed in a computer and the person using it would never know it’s running in the background.

These programs can record whatever you want, the passwords they use, the letters they type, the pages they visit, or even record a video of the screen as they use the computer. You can also download a few paid apps over your phone and install a secret app in your partner’s phone to keep track of their calls too.

 

18. GPS device. Are you the one who wants to catch your partner red handed? Then the stalker mode may work for you! Pick up a tiny GPS device that can be fixed to the underside of your partner’s car. You can track their movements and pounce on them when their pants are around their ankles in a sleazy motel out of town!

Use these 18 ways on how to catch a cheating partner, and there’s no way a cheater can get away with their adu1terous ways.